do you feel bad ,hurt or insulted when confronted with that question?
2006-12-15 08:36:01 · 15 answers · asked by gulliver 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I did when I stayed home, but then I went back to work. I see all these replies about what stay at home moms do. So what. I'll probably get slammed for this but oh well. My kids are with their grandmother or 8 hours a day while I'm at wrk. When I work I am doing hard, physical labor.When I come home, I clean, cook, take care of my children. It is twice as hard working than being a stay at home. Don't think I'm just shooting of my mouth. Remember? I said I have done both. Working moms get no vacation. We get no sick days in regard to what someone else said. Even when we have a day off of our actual job, we're with our kids. I realize now that I had it a lot easier when I stayed home. I'd clean, the play with the kids, then clean some more, then play with the kids some more. That was so much easier than going to work and then coming home to do it.
2006-12-15 08:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, to be fair, I've been a stay-at-home wife for over a year and a half and I'm just now 30 weeks with my first child, so it's not like I'm busy with children. Also, I'll be the first to admit that my home-maker skills are terribly lacking. So yes, there has been more than one occasion where my own husband has asked me this, mostly out of frustration for the last issue listed above. Change is coming slow with me but it is something I have been working on, and whenever he spouts those words it makes me feel even more useless than I already do, but I know it's my fault so I'm not particularly insulted.
2006-12-15 17:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a stay at home mom, I don't really get asked that too often. Sometimes people will ask me if I get bored. Up until my oldest son was 3 years old, I worked full-time, and I can honestly say that I work harder at home now than I did working at a job. Between taking my son back and forth to preschool and being involved in his school activities, caring for my 9 month old, constantly cleaning and running errands - there's not much time for anything else (especially myself). I traded a career for being a nanny and a molly maid 24/7. But, I do love it and wouldn't trade it for the world! So, I really don't let other's comments bother me.
2006-12-15 16:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Isla14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate is when people ask me that. I'm like ok what do you think I do all day just lay around the house or what. NO I wish staying at home was that easy but instead I take care of a 2 1/2 year old and a 1 month old. And on top of that I clean, do laundry, cook, grocery shop, and still have to find the time to get dressed! And keep in mind while I'm doing all of this I have to make sure that my kids are taking care of. Like feed them, get them dressed,get them something to drink, and clean up their toys. So it's not an easy job to stay at home with your kids especially if you have little ones. Everyone thinks that it's just so easy and that we are so lucky. But it's not as easy as it looks.
2006-12-15 16:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by brittneyn127 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No and they would be walking funny for a while if they did. Before I became a mom I had a very demanding and successful career. Staying at home with my children is by far the hardest job I've ever had. I would relive my worst day in the business world ten times over than spend one more day of potty training my 3 yr old. It is an amazing and frustrating world we sahm live in. I wouldn't give it up for anything, but I would certainly like some time off for good behavior :-) Good Luck.
2006-12-15 16:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by BlueFish 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think I feel all of the above. I feel bad because I wonder if I am doing all that I can and should. I feel hurt because I try the best I can to be a good wife/mother. And I am insulted because it is none of their business and if my hubby is happy then why does it matter to anyone else.
2006-12-15 16:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them you can feed a baby while doing the dishes, unwrapping a piece of cheese for the 3 yr old and talking to the cable company on the phone. all at the same time there is a load of laundry in the washer and dryer and dinner is in the oven. (my day today) if that doesnt work then ask them to babysit for you while you take a day trip somewhere. hehe. theyll never ask again!
2006-12-15 16:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by jimnmollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an attack on what we do, although I am very laid back about it. Being a mother is the hardest job in the world...let me explain why to those who disagree.
Most people leave their jobs on the weekends, for vacation etc. we NEVER leave our jobs. We may leave physically but as a Mother we are always emotionlly connected...way more than Fathers are, no offense. But Dads are able to go out and not talk or think about the kids, our minds constantly go to their well being.
Also, even after they graduate we never quit being Mom's! We not only are wives, friends, home managers, housekeepers, schedule keepers...need I go on...but we also have to remain physically, emotionally and spiritually available 24/7 for our kids...if we desire for them to grow healthly, mature and responsible!
2006-12-15 16:47:57 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is the question of every day wether I spent all day doing housework running errands and playing mom, teacher, cook, and kissing dh butt the whole time. Get used to it if your a stay st home mom itll happen
2006-12-15 17:08:16 · answer #9 · answered by crashqueen_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the term stay at home mom is sort of a joke. theres rarely a day im' not out and about.. with three kids someone always needs SOMETHING.. diapers, new shoes, something for school. i'm always running around doing errands.. and on the days i do go out it limits the laundry, cleaning, etc that i shuold be getting done at home. i'm ALWAYS exhausted b/c 12 hours a day i rarely sit down.
2006-12-15 16:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by Mina222 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋