What would you do if you walked in on your babysitter and her boyfriend in your house?

Question

Ok, My husband's cousin watches my son while we're at work and my daughter is at school. Her son is the same age as my son.

I had to pick my daughter up from school because she was sick. I tried to call the babysitter to let her know I'd be early but she didn't answer the phone.

When I walked in the house they were definatly kissing but I'm not sure what else. They definately jumped when I walked in and thankfully were fully clothed.

I consider myself a conservative person and I'm definatly an old fashioned parent. So what should I do? I plan on talking to my husband when he gets home. But I'd like to hear some opinions.

Answer 1

I would have that talk with your husband. Did you tell that there was to be no other people in the house while you were gone? If you did I would "fire" her so to say. Find a different babysitter. Is there a daycare in your area? Consult them see how much they pay. I do realize that most parents do not want their children in daycares due to some parents do not care what their child hear sees or says but fact remains that you still need to find a different babysitter and come up with like a contract of sorts. Just to let them know the rules of your house and the rules are set in stone. Good luck

Answer 2

Like they were macking on the couch? At least they weren't screwing in your bed-or on the couch for that matter. I guess you should count yourself lucky in that respect, especially since you're the one who broke it up. Yikes!

Being that you admit to being old fashioned and conservative, if the conclusion of the discussion with your husband includes keeping her as your babysitter, there should definitely be some ground rules laid down, like no friends (of either sex to make it fair and without loopholes) when she's working. If you decide to get a new sitter, set up the same rules so you won't be presented with this problem again--and if you do you have a better reason to let them go, since it will be a direct violation of your own rules. And since kids are great at leaking information, all you have to do is ask the kids if someone else has been there and they're likely to tell you.

Answer 3

That is your house and you pay the cost to be the boss. I don't know if she watches you son for free, but if she does that's still not a license to turn your home into a motel. Tell her you don't want her having visitors in your home. Period.

Would you leave your child in a daycare where are the ladies had their men there making out while the kids were outside at recess?

Don't let your husband do the talking because it's his sister and he'll probably be too nice. She would probably take it more seriously coming from you.

Answer 4

Sounds like you need a new babysitter. Think of it this way: babysitting your son is her job. What would you do if you were a boss in an office and walked in on an employee making out with her boyfriend during work hours? It's unprofessional behavior, she's neglecting her primarly responsibility to your son, and I would guess it's not going to settle down if you let it go.

Answer 5

How old is she? I am assuming plenty old if she has a child and wasn't in school herself. Was she ignoring your son? Was your son watching? If no.....then why get so worked up? If the kids were sleeping...big deal! Plus, they were kissing.....and? People do more than that in public!! I think you are totally over reacting, and it isn't a big deal. I am assuming she is good with your son (or she wouldn't have been watching him), so why lose a good baby sitter because she was "kissing a boy"? Come on, my mom is 55 and wouldn't think that's a big deal! My grandma wouldn't have before she died and she was 84! It's nothing to do with being old fashioned.....it's over reacting!

Answer 6

First of all, your babysitter isn't being honest with you, and that is one of the most important things when you have someone watching your child. It was extremely disrespectful to not only have someone in your house without your knowledge or permission, but to have it be her boyfriend? That's just rude. When someone is babysitting, their entire focus should be on the child, and obviously, she wasn't. I would let her go, even though it may be uncomfortable since she's family.

Answer 7

If I were in your situation i would also get mad and fire her. She was in your house suppose to be watching your child not fulling around with her boyfriend. They were only kissing but if you hadn't walked in they proably would of gone further and that is rude. You need to find someone more respectful and responsible. She proably never paid any attention to your son and that isn't right. People like that shouldn't be babysitting others.

Answer 8

If she is a grown (over 18) person, I wouldn't freak too much, and talk to her as an adult. "Look, when you are over watching my child, I don't feel comfortable with you having guests over." This ought to do it, but if not, say- "I'd appreciate it if you didn't have your boyfriend over when I am at work. It makes me uncomfortable." It is polite, but states your expectations. It is your house, and your hubby's cousin is doing a service for you. In this capacity, she is under your employment and has to abide by your rules to continue to be such. I would be uncomfortable with people in my house that I don't expect to be there, when I am not there. I want the person who is employed to be watching my child to be doing that... not hugging on their boyfriend.

Answer 9

Well im almost 100% sure that this isnt the first time she has had her boyfriend over, so i think you should get someone a little more responsible. Why are you going to pay someone (if you are paying her) or even trust someone to watch your kids when they cant even do THAT right!

Answer 10

if it were during nap time you might could over look it but if the kids were awake and running around then i would find another sitter quick