depressed...?

Question

does anyone else besides me just feel totally down about the way their life is going right now? does it seem like everything's just headed downhill? if not, can you tell me how to get my happiness back?

uh correction, i'm a Christian for all you who said i need to find God.. i'm just down right now..

Answer 1

I understand you completely. Like this morning I woke up and I was supposed to go to this job interview. But then the car wouldn't start and I had no one to give me a boost. But that's not the only thing that happened. I missed my appointment and then when I came online to do my class, I found out that someone deleted my 11 page paper and I had to sit there and do the whole thing over again. And my cell phone got turned off because I couldn't get to the bank to get some money. I can't get in contact with my boyfriend and my day has been really crappy. So yea... I get that feeling..

Answer 2

The simple answer is to seek professional help...from a psychologist or therapist.
If your depression is transitory, then let's sit down and think about some things. First, you are truly your own best friend. You are great and wonderful. Celebrate your greatness, your beauty, your wisdom, your strengths. Each day offers new opportunities to learn. When you get up in the morning, pause a moment to think about all the great new and wonderful things you will be exposed to this day. As the day progresses, look at all the beauty you see about you. Notice how other people are. You can't control others but you certainly can control your own attitude. So work on that attitude. You are perfect exactly as you are. You always have been perfect and always will be perfect. Accept yourself as you are without criticism or judgment...after all, you have always done your best...and always will do your best. When you go to bed at night, reflect on the days activities and remember all the times you smiled, laughed, had a good feeling. If you can't remember, then think of those events that you could have enjoyed. Re-live them and smile. As your days go by remember each day that you are unique, wonderful and very very special. Life gives you opportunities...how you take those opportunities is up to you. So grab life by the throat, shake it hard, enjoy every minute and remember, you are great and wonderful and are having a great and wonderful time. Go for it, girl. And god bless.

Answer 3

Happiness is a state of mind, you can right this second choose to be happier. I view it as a flipping of the perspective, try and think about how fortunate you are for what you do have. We have two ways we can approach a situation, either positive or negative. Many times its easier to view the negative and accept defeat, try to instead turn it so you are looking at the good in every situation.

Out in this world of ours millions of people are not as well off as you and I are but they can still find some way to feel happy.
You can do it as well...you just need to set your mind on the "happy" side. It takes practice and time, so don't get discouraged, if you catch yourself getting down, just remind yourself how fortunate you are just to be alive. You already won the lottery, now go and make the most of it! Great luck to you.

Answer 4

I have been happy, more so than usual, for the past several days. I have the Christmas spirit. I truly believe that "it is more blessed to give than to receive." I enjoy giving Christmas presents and really do not care if I receive any or not. I think life in the US is great. I can find enjoyment in doing nothing.

Ask yourself why you feel depressed. Maybe a physical ailment? Something go bad in your life recently? Some people, when they become older teens or young adults become clinically depressed for no reason. A chemical imbalance in the brain shows up. Sometimes it goes away. Sometimes it gets worse.

If your feeling persist, and it's not just the holiday blues, please talk to your doctor. You might benefit from counseling.

Answer 5

Keeping busy usually helps me. If I find myself enough activities to do, my mood is usually better even though life becomes more hectic. Physical activities and exercise are especially happy, because they raise your endorphins!

A piece or two of chocolate can also boost the mood--but don't overdo it!

Creativity is also a fantastic outlet. Even if you don't want to show it to anybody, write a poem or draw something or paint. You don't even have to paint anything specific; sometimes just looking at the colors can pick you up. Other simple crafts are also great. Playing music or singing is great, too, especially if nobody can hear you! Just avoid the songs that make you sad.

If you want to cry, cry. Once you've stopped, you'll usually feel at least a little closer to being at peace with the situation.

Good luck feeling better.

Answer 6

Nobody can tell you how to get happiness back with a vague explanation like the one you gave. But from all that you typed, I'd say that you should try to go out more and do things you like to do. You don't even have to hang with friends if you don't want. Get a job that can pay. Look at a career you'd like to get into. And focus on a goal you'd like to reach. I personally like sitting @ the south side and drinking a soda at a cafe. Also drawing and walking around central park

Answer 7

This might sound rather trite, but what worked for me was being grateful. Think of what you have to be grateful for, your health, living in the United States, a job, nice hair...whatever. If you start with small things that you can find that you are grateful for, and truly try to fill your heart with gratitude, you will be surprise how over time happiness will come your way. People think I'm crazy because I say "I love my job" They are all complaining about how awful it is. I just say thank you because it beats welfare, gives me an income, insurance...so many things that many people wish they had....Start with Gratitude. I wish you well and wish you peace. K

Answer 8

Depending on your age and predisposition this could be one of a few things. If you are a teenager it could be hormones wreaking havoc on your outlook, I know many teens who go through a period of depression with no discernable cause, and then bounce back when they get a little older. If there is a history of mental problems such as this in your family you could have a chemical imbalance. In this case you would need to speak to a specialist. Or you could just be caught up in negative life patterns and thoughts. Are you treating yourself with respect, are you setting goals? It's amazing how these two little things can give your inner happiness a mega boost. Do you catch yourself thinking negative things, which serve to reinforce your depression? If so, every time you catch one popping up in your mind try to counteract it with some positive self reinforcement. Sounds cheesy, but in time this works too. I had a horrible period in my life where I was depressed and I got in the habit of thinking "and then she killed herself" as a way to cheer me up, morbid right? Yeah, well when I realized what I was doing everytime I caught myself thinking that I countered it with "NO! She picked herself up and made things change! She accomplished her dreams! She made things better!" Which again, sounds cheesy, but it worked wonders for me. My attiutde and life have both improved since I started to reinforce positive thinking and setting goals, both short term and long term for myself. Every time you have a success celebrate, and every time you have a failure brush it off and keep on trucking. I hope you find happiness soon.

Answer 9

I feel like that a lot also. Just gotta keep telling yourself that things can only get better . . . and that everything happens for a reason. It doesn't always help . . but . . it's worth a try. Try to figure out what is making you so unhappy and find a way to change that. I found it helps to keep a journal. Hope u find your happiness.

Answer 10

My life goes through phases like this also; but I just have to 'will' myself into thinking I have three beautiful children and a good husband, I meen things could be worse, I could be a bum on the side of the road. Think of the good things and try not to dwell on your problems for awhile.You do have the power to make yourself feel better! GOOD LUCK, and have a Merry Christmas!