If your child saved up money for a couple months to buy a game that she really wanted and them ended up dropping the game into the bin for Toys for Tots on the way out of the store without regret... would you inturn buy your child the game she willing gave up for Christmas? My fiance thinks we should but Im not sure. Im very proud of her for doing what she did and did it without expecting us to buy the game for her and she has already started saving up again for it. What would you do?
2006-12-15 08:19:40 · 27 answers · asked by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Thank you for all the good comments about my daughter. I feel the same way!
2006-12-15 08:49:58 · update #1
Thank you for all the good comments about my daughter. I feel the same way!
2006-12-15 08:50:02 · update #2
Wow - what an awesome child!!!!!!! bet your proud!!!!!!!
Meet her half way............. let her keep saving, then when she is half way to having half the money (dont tell her this) you and your fiance surprise her by taking her to the shop and paying the other half.......... she has to be praised for doing such a loving unselfish act........... show her by giving out good - it comes back to her ten fold - life is meant to be about giving, - and receiving is a bonus!!
Im a Nanny-Educator and i think your kid is fantastic for doing this. Well done Mum (Mom)
2006-12-15 08:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You must be overflowing with pride right now. I agree, the initial reaction would be to reward her and buy the same toy that she gave up, but this might diminish the value of what she did. Putting the gift in the bin means less if she's counting on someone else buying it for her in a few days. Keep telling her how proud you are of her, and buy her something else nice for Christmas. Maybe you can even give her a little cash to help her on her way to saving up again. And give yourself a pat on the back for raising a truly wonderful, generous child.
2006-12-15 08:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by Krista D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm I am not sure. That is so sweet though you know. I think I would probably not buy my child the game, but I would probably find quick and easy ways for her to earn the money, because you know that wonderful feeling you get when you give something that you really want for yourself . Well I would be afraid that she wouldn't remember that feeling as well if I just went ahead and bought her the game. To give is definitely better than to receive. That is a very special child you have. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-15 08:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by Telena M 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Such a beautiful Christmas story. Thanks. Your child is very special and I'm sure that God will reward her.
I would think that the best way to thank your daughter for her act of generosity is to show her you have learned a very valuable lesson from her. How about helping out at a soup kitchen, a hospital or an animal shelter this Christmas. They can use your help.And you know, nothing makes a child happier than to know that what she/he has done has inspired others to do the same.
2006-12-15 15:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by pepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It brings tears to my eyes. You must be so proud of your daughter.
It is a difficult question because you want her to be rewarded for her generosity, but also you don't want her to think that if she gives something away Mommy will buy her another.
Does she still believe in Santa? If she were my daughter, I would write a letter from Santa telling her what a thoughtful girl she has been - really outlining how nice it is to give a gift to kids who might not get much else, and how special it was to give something she worked so hard to save for- and have it be attached to the last present she opens (the game).
That way, you get to reward her generosity with the game she wanted, plus give her the kudos she deserves. (and maybe if its from santa she wont learn to expect rewards everytime she decides to be generous)
2006-12-15 08:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by leahivan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a very generous child!
I would say, meet her half-way with the payment on another game, as a Christmas gift if you really feel you'd like her to have it.
I feel that donations are something from the heart, where the only compensation is the good feeling you get when you know you did something good to help others.
Peace!
2006-12-15 08:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by dreamer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her if should would like the same game of her own. Your child made a most respectable choice. Tell her that and ask if she would want one of her own then if she agrees get her one. Other than that I would say no. Because perhaps that was what she wanted to do the entire time. Congratulate her and talk with her about the game that she wants.
2006-12-15 08:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should, she saved and saved for it and was excited to get the game, but then through her own heart decided to give it to someone who doesn't have many things. I think she deserves to get it for giving up something she wanted and got with her own money for another child she doesn't even know. I know my grandma and I(I'm 16) had gotten $20 of toys for each of my and my two siblings, and we had to force them to turn in the toys and check with their teachers because they wanted to keep them for themselves.
You should reward her for things she does right, and she will continue to do more kind things
2006-12-15 08:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd let her save up for it again. that's what charity means. if you get it for her for christmas, then she may think that she give things away and still get them anyway.
she may not understand the sacrifice in giving to others.
yes, i'd make sure you tell her how proud you are of her and get her other presents, but let her save her money for the game....that way when she gets the game again, she will feel good all over again b/c she will remember her godo deed.
what a great kid.
take care and happy holidays.
2006-12-15 08:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by joey322 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
that's what she wanted to do so leave it at that. The reward for Charity is the feeling it gives you for giving and the feeling the person gets when they are given something the reward is not supposed to be a material item.
I bet you are really proud of her, that's such an admirable thing she did.
2006-12-15 08:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋