why do working class people feel that unemployed parents shouldn't have children?

Question

my sister tried telling me not to bother with a third child because of finacial burden. my kids get the world off us, so why so much stigma, with the unemployed?

when i say my kids get the world off us, I give them everything they need most importantly love. and as for welfare money, maby i should of added im about to study at home to qualify in aged care,and having my children all together will save when i do get a job, not worrying about marturnity leave, i never borrow money from anyone, and as for this tax payers thing are you all finacialy set up for all parts in your life..eg retirement?

Answer 1

Many people don't understand the benefits of CHOOSING to be an at home mother- which a a 24 hour job, all year long, with no "personal" and "sick" days off.
Benefits: No one can raise your children as good as you- You don't have to worry so much about "quality time" (like us full-time working moms)- you're not stressed from two full time jobs- you don't feel guilty or worry about how your child is cared for when you're not there- you're your own boss- more opportunites for personal growth- JOYFUL WORK. You focus on people and not things. It is responsible work and you're there when your child needs you.

Many people have a misinterpretation of what a at home mother does. I work full time and I can't wait to be able to be with my girls full time for the new year. It is truly a blessing.

I would recommend reading STAYING HOME from Darcie Sander and Martha M. Bullen. This book is a reality check.

Answer 2

If you are unemployed, who is supporting your children? Its one thing to "not have much extra" but if not for the social welfare programs available, children of unemployed parents would be STARVING IN THE STREETS. So I hope you at least vote for the candidates that support that generosity.
The stigma is that you are not providing for your own children and the more you choose to procreate, the less you will be able to give each child. You are very fortunate to be able to stay at home with your children, but many "working class" people might resent you because they have children they would love to be able to pick up from school at 3oclock, but can't because they have to work a 50 hour week to get by.
I have no idea what you mean by "get the world off us." I hope its a typo because it sounds like you are using your kids to escape your adult responsibilities. I HOPE you meant you give them the world. And I hope you realize that one more child actually takes away time, energy, and resources from the two already living in your household.

Answer 3

If you can support the child yourself that's fine. But if you get a single dollar in state or federal aid because you can't take care of the kids you already have you shouldn't be allowed another child. Most of the country works their butts off and barely scrape by as it is. The economic situation of the middle-class is bad enough without having to pay half of what they make in combined state and federal taxes to support lazy people who somehow feel they're above doing an honest days work for themselves or their families sake. Your kids don't get the world of you, they get it of me. On top of that, the unemployed get huge deductions and breaks the middle-class doesn't. Go get your own money and stop stealing everybody else's. Until then I will hate and resent you as much as humanly possible.

Answer 4

As long as one parent is employed it is fine. Two unemployed parents would just not work with more then 1 kid. The problem is not in the present. You would be able to take care of them now for the most part. The issue is when all 3 start to drive and then all want teenage stuff and then the major issue when all 3 want to go to college. It is a large issue that lies in the future not the present.

Answer 5

I'm having a hard time understanding why you would ask. How do you intend to feed, clothe and house these children? What about medical care, you have no right to expect other people to help. What about the stress in the home, about being unemployed, not good for the kids mental health.

Answer 6

Unless your children are starving, then you are either receiving food stamps or welfare money or both. If your children get sick, then medicaid takes care of them. Where do you think that money comes from? Us dumb working people. If you are not receiving state aid, then you are mooching off someone. What a poor example to set for your children. It is true what they say-that ignorance breeds ignorance. Maybe you could break that cycle in your family? Also, maybe if you had a job, then you could find something more productive to do then have sex and make MORE babies.

Answer 7

If a parent can not fincnally provide for a child then they have no business having children. Being unemployed would make you unable to financially provide for a child and possibley wind up on welfare where those who DO work for a living have to pay to raise YOUR children.

Answer 8

If you are unemployed, how do you support them? Welfare? If that is the case then your children are getting the "world off us" -- the taxpayers. Therefore your sister is right. I (and others) work hard enough to support my own family plus pay my taxes so welfare recipients can lay around have kids and wait for the check.

Answer 9

Because our taxes pay welfare, and we are downright sick of subsidizing lazy welfare queens who pop out a new rugrat every 9 months to get more welfare money. Yes, a child is a financial burden, and unless one can sustain having a child, that person should not have one because in the end, the taxpayers pick up the tab.

Answer 10

well is true unemployed parent shouldn't have children because kids don't live with love they need education,clothing etc If you want more kids get a job