So I have this girlfriend. She and I have fallen for each other, but she has mentioned several times that she doesn't want to "get tired of me". I didn't know this was possible, but I guess I can understand it. I asked her to elaborate and she says: "well, I like to be touchy-feely at the beginning of a relationship, but towards the middle then it is better to have space". So what can I do to ensure she doesn't get tired of me, and "want space". How do I keep that "magic" we have alive?
2006-12-15 08:00:51 · 15 answers · asked by swmrguy1985 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm happily in a five year relationship but I don't know how you can get tired of someone your crazy over. I know that space is healthy in relationships. Its important that you have a life outside of your relationship too. I think you can keep the magic alive by not being with each other 24/7 but still have quality time to spend with your sweetie. You can have those special romantic moments and try being thoughtful.
2006-12-15 08:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by miley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer to use the term, understanding with god. If you don't believe then you don't understand, Which is ok by me that's your right. But I will tell you my opinion God is so very powerfull that we as human beings canot begin to understand Gods.....,well power. God is a entity that has been forever. That being said some people might use the term"personal relationship" which Im sure God is more than capable of doing. Does it make me feel special? Not really, Im no better than anyone else. As for your example "personal relationship with a street prostitute but I pay full price". I myself at one time was a nonbeliever,Jesus payed full price for my sins. I wont go into details into what changed my life. Except to say that things were, and still are happening that aren't just dumb luck. Now Id like to make a observation about your question. Evidently this bothers you or you wouldn't be asking the question. Maby your mocking a little to make your self feel better,probably because you have doubts about what you believe. Your question doesn't bother me because I have no doubt in what I believe. I hope and pray that God will change your life the way mine has been changed. As a former nonbeliever I do have a understanding with God. A.K.A ,,,RELATIONSHIP!!!!
2016-05-22 21:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you can do is listen to her...really listen...and talk to her and find out more....and tell her what your needs are as well as wanting to please her.
It sounds as if she MIGHT have a problem with intimacy...since she has described the classic problem of the dance of intimacy...as someone gets to know you and you them...you want more space...
I thought you were going to say that she liked to be touchy feely and then she liked more commitment. I guess that's normak in anyone over a certain age.
So, unless you are very young....it sounds as if you might get hurt....unless she can change and enjoy being with you MORE or AS MUCH rather than less.
I am not saying that space isn't good - it is - you both need some space, and it would be scarey if she was already suggesting joint bank accounts, OF COURSE it would.
The best thing to do is to take it day by day and enjoy being with her, and tune in to what is happening. Keep talking to each other and really listen to what she says and expect her to listen to you too, and you could be able to enjoy each other for years to come.
Good luck
2006-12-15 08:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by Suzita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep changing, or adding to the magic! Do NEW things to keep the magic going. She may just mean that once she establishes a relationship she doesn't need to be touchy-feely as she put it to know it's a good relationship.
2006-12-15 08:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is giving you a bit of a "heads up" here.
Sounds like ---- hey sweetie I will be so touchy feely for the first little while ..... but just know I do plan on cooling off a little later.
You alone cannot keep the magic alive ... she needs to be part of it as well......... good luck with your little princess..... lol
2006-12-15 08:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if she gets bored after the initial spark. If she's the same age as you then, she'll want to experience different relationships to find the person she feels most comfortable with. You have to kiss alot of frogs to meet your prince or princess. Just enjoy the time together and don't over analyze the situation have fun what will be will be.
2006-12-15 08:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by 247 SEB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u can keep the magic be doing stuff she enjoys. Ask her what she likes to do even if its someting that u might not like do it anyway to plz her. Send her some nice text messages make her know ur thinkin about her. Goodluck
2006-12-15 08:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by flavaza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once in a while go out for a date & forget your problems by yourself or maybe have a candle light dinner formaly once in a while or surprise her with flowers or presents or send her little notes that yoou know she'll find like on the mirror in the bathroom or in her car or in her purse.Good Luck Mr.Charm!
2006-12-15 08:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by maamawalanis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't any way to do it.
If the spark is there , its there.
If its gone its gone, no matter how much you want to keep it.
Just enjoy what you have when you have it.
Some lucky people keep it for like 70 years, mostly it dies after 2 years or so.
2006-12-15 08:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand what she is saying, she doesn't want to lose you just like you don't want to lose her.Do something out the blue for her once a month to let her know that she is special,nothing exspensive. Get her a card that says exactly how you feel about her.Thats all, just let her know how much you mean to her.
2006-12-15 08:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by imacutie2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋