How can I politley tell members of my family I am not interested in their petty drama they always seem to have with one another?
That's why me & my husband moved 40miles away..for some peace & quiet. But they will be here for Christmas & I guarantee there will be some new feud between atleast a couple of them. It makes family gatherings very tense. What happend to good old-fashioned holiday get togethers??
2006-12-15 07:59:48 · 19 answers · asked by Darcy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can try what I did a few years ago when my family came to my house...
I stood at the front door and told everybody to leave all ATTITUDES on the door step...I would NOT have them ruining my 5 year old's (at the time) Christmas. And if saw an attitude...out you go...back to the porch!
We all had a lovely Christmas with not an arguement to be found!
2006-12-15 08:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Nibbles 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not really sure how you could tell them, but if they try and involve you just be like ''I'm not getting in to this. if you want to be bickering and ruin christmas, go ahead, but don't include me nor bicker around me!''
But, I totally know where you are coming from! i don't know where good old-fashioned holiday get-togethers went, but I wish they'd come back!!
Our family has the same problems though, where there's always some sort of weird conflict and crap going on-and you never want to deal with it/get involved in it. Yet, you always do!!
One piece of advice though-don't invite them over if you know there's going to be tension. It will just avoid the whole thing!!
2006-12-15 08:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by london.paris17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much EVERY family has a few people that like to feud and cause conflict. The only thing you can do, and seems like you are doing is to not contribute in any way to the drama. It's only one day, deal with it and then you can go back to your normal life.
2006-12-15 08:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they start aruging at your home, politely inform them that that kind of behaivor is not acceptable in your home. Tell them that you enjoy seeing everyone during the holidays but don't want to be involved in all the drama that's going on between them, and if they are too childish to stop while they are in your home then you will not continue to host family gatherings.
2006-12-15 08:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can choose your friends, but not your family. You are stuck with them.All you can decide is if you want to be a part of their celebration of the holidays or not. If you dread them coming, don't invite them again. Then you can leave, from wherever the party is held, and go home. This year, though, put up with them unless somebody gets really ugly. Then ask that person to please leave and come back when they can be nice.
2006-12-15 08:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try sitting down with each family member individually and tell them how you feel or arrange a family meeting to discuss between everyone of them. If they dont listen tell them that they wont be seeing you very much. It will be hard to do but you have to in order to let them realize.
2006-12-15 08:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-22 21:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you invite them over, knowing full well that they'll start a feud and cause drama? Why do you put your husband through that? You can't control how other people behave, but you can control who you decide to spend your time with. Your husband will never escape these idiots...??
2006-12-15 08:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just asked that question, weird you must be going out with our family tonight. My husband just searched for the same problem and your question came up. My family is going out and the topics are constantly coming up are after we have left. and They are scrutinizing my family and I. Then they have my aunt call me and ask me really rude questions like "Are you on drugs you seem really thin?" I think that this aunt is the one that feeds the fire and starts the conversations though.
2006-12-15 08:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the family know how you feel and tell them straight up that you and your husband wont tolerate any drama period. Christmas is a time for sharing ,love, peace ,and joy,and if that's not in their vocabulary then stay home!
2006-12-15 08:09:51 · answer #10 · answered by sissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋