This guy says that he loves me and that I have changed his life, yet I have not really met this one except for over the phone. We have talked every night for a few months now, but have not been able to meet due to our schedules. He talks about marriage all the time and I can't help but wonder how he can even think of it already. I have been told by others older than I that when guys fall in love they fall hard. Is that true? I know that I really love his personality, but I am a sceptic of my feelings towards him. I know they are stong, but again I have not met him so I am confused. Can anyone help my confused mind out?
2006-12-15 07:41:12 · 25 answers · asked by Leslie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I don't believe that can happen. Love takes time to grow and build and a big part of that is being with a person and seeing if "everything" clicks. Keep in mind (because I hate it when this happens and it can) when your around someone long enough some times there personality can start to change and you see there true colors coming out. Rule to remember: In all relationships remember that "actions speak louder then words"
2006-12-15 07:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone that says you can't fall in love without meeting first is full of it. Talking on the phone or on the computer or writing letters is a way of communication and a way to get to know someone else. I actually value this because you get a chance to know each other first without the physical aspect getting involved and becoming intimate too fast too soon. I would be apprehensive because it's only been a few months and he is saying I love you and talking about marriage, but not because you haven't met yet. Go meet him! Take it from there. If you feel like things are moving too fast let him know and set some boundaries.
2006-12-15 15:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no possible way for someone to love another without meeting. He loves the idea of you as in reality, he doesn't know you 100%. He knows the person on the other line, things are very different in person. Find a way to make it work so you can meet and spend time together. There is no other way to end the confusion. You need to tell him he needs to slow down because you will never know what will happen when you meet. There may not be any physical chemistry and that is a definate must in a relationship. Good luck.
2006-12-15 15:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right.. You love your perception of who you think he is. The same is for him. He may love the person that he has envisioned in his mind. He has a perfect image of you and that is what he wants. The only way to know for sure it to actually meet, get to know each other one on one. Until you know what their mannerisms are, how they react to the unexpected, you are only in love with an idea. If you are serious about the possibility of a relationship with him, you have to make the time to meet. If you decide to do this, you need to make sure it is in a public place with lots of people around for the 1st couple of times.
Guys are not all the same, some become deeply attached quickly and some never really allow themselves to... This guy may be the kind that becomes emotionally attached easily..
I hope this helps..
2006-12-16 02:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by dswawm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do meet, do it in a public place. A person can say what they want over the phone. YOU don't know if its true or not. Also you say u love his personality-again you've never met this person so you don't know if his is true or not. Go with what you feel is right. Stay safe. Hope everything works out
2006-12-15 15:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by tasha7682 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omm you dumb to think someone you hardly know loves you, yes you may send cute im's to each other every now and again flirting back and forth, but hon that ain't love how old are you sound like a child and in most cases this guy could be a pedophile for all you know what successful couple meets online anyways, stay in the real world hon, and try not to live in a fantasy one-â¥
2006-12-15 15:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is desperate.
AND AGAIN!!! what is up with these weird phone/internet relationships. Please go out into the real world, meet someone that you can see and smell and touch. That's probably your best bet at finding a normal relationship, instead of some creapo who wants to marry you without even being in the same VICINITY as you!!!!
2006-12-15 15:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by i am a girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...he simply Loves the idea of being in love with you and love like that does not last long after people finally meet and get to know each other as true people...
2006-12-15 15:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not right in the head. You cannot "love" a person until you know them and if you have never met it would be hard to know them. Getting to know someone takes time but it has to be time spent together. For all you know he could already be married. Beware. He is not normal.
2006-12-15 15:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's playing you,and love he's nuts.I know personaly guys get all crazy over long distance relationships.But If i were you i would give up on him for your own safety what if you finaly meet and u don't want to be with him he'll be messed up but what do i know?And guys do fall hard tell him u changed ur mind or moving or getting married to someone else that you can see for real.Think for your safety,he might be a psycho.
2006-12-15 15:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Victorio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋