2006-12-15 07:20:08 · 31 answers · asked by nesiatexan1969 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Of course. You can always give a person a gift. Just don't make it a frivolous one under the circumstances. And don't wish them a "Merry Christmas", just put in a note (if you're not going to see them in person) saying that they are in your thoughts (and prayers, if you are so inclined.)
2006-12-15 07:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is appropriate, but the type of present should take into consideration that they are in mourning.
Give something that is comforting, like food, or a sweater or nice scarf, or a good book, rather than a bottle of vodka or a gag gift or silly hat or anything too party-ish... OK, not the best examples but hopefully you get what I mean.
You should also write a condolence letter to your friend and their family, if you have not done so already.
2006-12-15 12:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
I know, I know...it seems like the world should stop when someone dies. The temptation, especially for those of us on the outside, is to sneak by quietly and whisper around them and generally treat them as though they were this fragile piece of crystal. However, your friend needs to be reminded of all of the good that's still here in the world outside. Shockingly enough, a porcelain duck gravy boat may just be the thing to make your friend smile, if even for a moment.
2006-12-15 07:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think your friend would appreciate a thoughtful gift. Your friend will need your support at this time, and although Christmas will be a very difficult time, life goes on.
2006-12-15 07:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Suzita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I went in my friends couldn't really bring me anything while I was in. They brought me food to eat while we visited. After I got out though they got me a gift basket and a huuuge card. I still have the card. All my friends signed it. In the basket was my favorite movie that I didn't have on DVD yet, some candy, stickers, colorful cheery pens and paper. All of this helped. I knew I was loved and the pens and paper are good for doodling or journaling (which they try to get you to do to release stress).
2016-05-22 21:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Very appropriate. Might make the friend feel a little bit better.
2006-12-15 07:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Just because they lost a parent doesn't mean they need to lose holidays too. You're friend needs all the love and support you can give to them. I think it's a wonderful idea.
2006-12-15 07:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very appropriate. I'm sure they are feeling down and lonely, and having a friend remember them for the holiday will likely make them feel as they belong, because grief can be very isolating.
2006-12-15 07:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!
i lost my grampa a few years back right before christmas and the thing that pissed me off is my family ate hamburgers and crap when all i wanted was to have the best christmas ever i thought they would go all out cause it was the family getting back together but they just made burgers???!!!! WTF haha sorry i think you should give the gift it would show your freind you are there and you care
2006-12-15 07:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by st3ven83 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
One doesn't really have to do with the other; even in a time of loss, I think (now more than ever) a friend would want to feel loved and appreciated by surrounding family and friends. So doing something nice during this season would really lift their spirits, I would think.
2006-12-15 07:28:51 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Albritton 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋