AM I TOO ATTACHED to my MOTHER?

Question

My mom and I have been thorugh sooo VERY MUCH! My parents have been divorced now for 20 years he left my brother, mother and myself. I was 8 my brother was 4. I helped my mother take care of my brother. She took soo much care for us and did it all mother, father, friend...now I am getting married and leaving to a town about 5 hours away. She and I are not only mother and daughter we are the BEST OF FRIENDS. It hurts me sooo much to leave her behind. I tell her to go with me and she says she has to let me grow in my marriage. Maybe she will in the future. What is your opinion on this?

Answer 1

My mom and I are very close she lives 3 hrs away. I do not get to see her all the time but we do talk on the phone every day. This has gone on for yrs. I am also a single parent for 13 yrs. I have a 21&24 yr old and we are very close (best friends). Some day I know they will move futher away from me and I will worry about them and they will worry about me. But I will survive just as your mom will. We are stong people. You need to start your new life with your husband and grow with him. Just remember she will always be there when you need her. You are truly blessed to have a mom like her.

Answer 2

I feel the same way about my mother. I've been married for 11 yrs now and my husband still sometime teases me about "cutting the cord". I feel really bad for you. Five hours is a long way away. I moved about 25-30 miles away from my mom about 4 yrs ago(after living about 2 minutes from her) and it is still difficult being able to see her everyday. i do talk to her everyday though, and when we do see each other, it makes the time we spen together so much more special. You won't lose your mother or your friendship with her. This move will probably make the bond between you stronger and appreciate each other even more. She is right to let you go,however. This way she can see what a wonderful wife/mother you'll become. Maybe one day in the future when you have kids, she'll relocate a bit closer. This is such a wonderful relationship to have with your mother. I hear so much things about children and parents today and it is absolutely heartbreaking. I'm glad I'm not the only one who can experience this with their mom:)

P.S.
There is no such thing as being to attached to your mother, so the simple answer to your question is NO.

Answer 3

I am the same with my mother. I cried and cried the first year of marriage as she is in India and I am here in the US even if I want to go and meet her, I cannot.. Anyway, after a while, I just started putting my mind on other things and eventually got over it. I have been married for 14 years now, the sun might forget to rise and shine but I will not forget to give her a call 2 times a day ( minimum). I tell her everything.
You are atleast lucky that you can meet her over the weekend if you desire so. It is absolutely normal to be sooooo attached to your mother. It is in fact very healthy as you have someone with whom you can confide and vent out with.

Answer 4

Mother is right, you need to be alone with your mate, no interferences with anyone eles, Its hard leaving the ones you love the most but in the case of getting married, this is a must!!You and your mate need to become best friends and buddies...This will fill but not take the place of momma...She will always be there for you when you need her to be...And she will miss you too, very much...But she knows she has to let go so you can grow and learn and be the best you, you can become, with your life and your mates life....from a mom who knows!!!!

Answer 5

It's hard to let go but if you don't, then you won't be able to grow up. She's right. Don't worry so much because you've done the best thing anyone could do and that's be a good daughter to your mom and love her dearly. Besides, you'll always have her in your life. It's ok to go. Especially if she tells you to. Don't worry about her because if you got through so much, then you'll be fine.

Answer 6

well she is right. You need to grow in your marriage and do a little for you. She is your best friend and your mother so she will always be there and only 5 hours away!!! Smile and then either visit her or have her visit you it is not like you are way too far away

Answer 7

I think your mother is doing the right thing. Eventhough your mother is YOUR best friend, it could turn out to be a strain on the relationship, that you have with your spouse. I believe your mother is right for letting you, and your husband strengthen your relationship with each other. Who knows what the future holds.

Answer 8

no you can never even closer to your mother she brught you in to the wrold. and your father is not much any thing but a loveable person and he protects you when things go wrong but my parents are seperated too. you should maybe live close to you mother so not saying live next door , cuz when your friends come over they might qestion you why u live close to ur mother u need space too. move somewhere a distance you can walk. be in your marrage alone so u can have some space.

Answer 9

Go live your life. That's why your mom took such good care of you and your brother. She wants you to have a wonderful life. Stay in constant touch and visit often, but you have to start your own family. Imagine what a great mom will be like as a grandmother? You are truly blessed to have such a great mom.

Answer 10

Your not too attached, you love your mom! There is nothing wrong with that! I have been through hell and back with my bad mom and i still love her, you got one of the great mothers and now it is time for you to go and live your life! And be in turn a great mom to your kids! Give her the opportunity to be a great grandmother!