Do i have a anger problem?

Question

For the last five years i have lashing out in pure rage! I did feel some of this in my teenage years but not this bad. 6 yrs ago i divorced and it was tough. at the same time i had recently joined the military. Ever since then i can get easily irritated and i have no control over my anger, which usually culminates in a bad situation.l

I am desperate, two years ago i married and i have hurt her in so many ways. I know she fears me, i really dont want that. I do love her very much. we have a newborn, and i really dont want her to experience this!

I am so unhappy with myself. I dont know what to do? I dont know if i need a shrink or not! I just want to get better!

Answer 1

Good job on realizing that you have a problem! Yes, go see a therapist. If the first one doesn't help, then try another one until you find one that helps you. The fact that you want to change is a good sign. Tell your wife everything that you just told us and let her help you deal with this. Open up to her, talk to her, tell her how she can help you, and listen to her when she needs to talk.

Answer 2

i think you DO have an ager problem and that you know that you have one. I think that the first step is knowing that you need help----and a therapist or as you said "shrink" can help you control your anger, help you find the root cause, and also suggest creative outlets for it-----start jogging, get a puppy and train the puppy, but dont you dare hurt that dog! You could get a new hobby or start working out or go target practicing---something that makes you slow down, calm down, and concentrate will hell you chill the hell out and get rid of some stress. Maybe some of it has to do with being in the military, depending on what you did and where you were, and i am sure that there are support groups to help out military men and women! Good luck and keep us posted!

Answer 3

You know you have an anger problem. You want to know what to do about it.
But you have not given enough info about your particular struggle. Maybe you need to go to some type of 12 step group five times a week or 5 times a day? Maybe you need once a week professional therapy? Only you will really know the answer.
Finally, you say that you have hurt your wife "in so many ways". If that includes physically hurting her then you have also broken the law. I do not say this to indict or attack. Only to make it clear to you how important it is that you take complete responsibility right now for your past and present.
Good luck

Answer 4

Men translate saddness, and confusion, and depression, and hurt all into anger. Its not an anger problem you have, its something else, find the root and you will be able to cope with whats going on in better ways. You need a counselor that can help you find out what causes the issue, and also to give you some coping skills that you obviously don't have.

Answer 5

okay, its pretty obvious you do have an anger problem. but its good that you realize it and want to do something about it. you have a problem, but it doesnt make you a bad person. you can get through this! thats what all the shrinks (and dr phill) will tell you, just for a heads up...

Answer 6

Yes you have a anger problem, maybe if you go into therapy you can get some help. You probably need someone to talk to. Don't take your anger out on your wife, it isn't her fault.

Answer 7

Take some anger management classes. You can learn to control your anger before you harm someone or yourself. Don't give up, but you have to change how you react to things.

Answer 8

You have just admitted to your anger and lack of control over it. Therefore, this is a clear indication of you needing help. I suggest you seek it ASAP.

Answer 9

Don't get psyched. Fast for an entire day each time you cross the wire.

In less than two weeks you'll learn to keep your big mouth shut.

Answer 10

Seek help from a therapist not on Yahoo answers! Good luck to you.