Me & my bf have been dating for 2 months. I get the feeling that some days he likes me & other days he doesn't.
He accused me of flirting with guy friends a few days ago, and I told him I wasn't, but he didn't really agree or disagree with me.
Then yesterday, he started telling me about how I flirt with other guys and how it makes him feel bad and how he wants me to stop. I told him I wasn't flirting, just having fun with my good guyfriends.I think he's jealous because I'll hug them and talk with them, but he doesn't talk to me in school. He atcs like he's avoiding me. He has for quite some time.
So I can't flirt with him and hug him if he doesn't seem to want to talk to me.
I tried to talk about it today over text, but he never responded.
EEK. Is this my fault? What can I do to fix it? IWhat should i say 2 him???
2006-12-15 06:35:48 · 30 answers · asked by CAlifORniABABBAYY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I tried to start a conversation about how I feel over text earlier.
But he ignored me.
The face to face thing may not work for a while, school's over for winter break and he may be too mad to want to do anything with me...
2006-12-15 06:42:33 · update #1
I don't love him.
But I still like him.
And I have WAY more guy friends than girl friends. I don't really know why that is, but that's how it is.
I can't distance myself from them, I'll have a lack of friends!
Besides, what ever happened to "Don't chang eyourself for him?"
What should I say to him to make him understand I'mnot flirting.
He says it may be unintentional flirting, but it's still flirting.
Then he said that I couldn't change how I'm acting if it's unintentional.
I don't want to break up, I like him!
2006-12-15 06:50:57 · update #2
A lot of guys feel uncomfortable seeing their gf hugging other guys. To you it's harmless, but to him it makes him feel as if you'd rather be with them than him - it's a jealousy thing. You should respect that it makes him feel uncomfortable and tone it down a bit in front of him, but at the same time, you shouldn't lose your guy friends. He should also respect the fact that you have friends, and that's what they are - friends. He should acknowledge you at school, and if he wants to hang out with his mates that's fine, but you'll be with your mates too (ie. the guys). Get used to it, because a lot of guys are like this even when they're older, but at the same time don't lose your friends over a guy because they'll be the ones you turn to when it all turns sour with your man!!! ;)
2006-12-15 06:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by kyls 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No hon, this isn't ur fault, it's his. He's the one that is avoiding you and not giving u any attention, so it's all on him. As for flirting, we have a right to flirt, just remember,you can look but not touch. Hugs are ok, but anything else, is a big no no. I think you should dump him, you don't need someone that is going to ignor you and accuse you of flirting with guy friends. Hope this helps.
2006-12-15 06:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by smilest_16_2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was your bf b4 you started dating then he should know it is your personality to be this way with your guy friends. I am 31 and lived with a jealous man for 10 years - all of my 20's - my advice to you is GET OUT while you still can. It is not worth the heart ache and arguements b/c if he is this jealous now (and avoiding you) it will only get worse as time goes on. And it may lead to my physical situation in the future.
2006-12-15 06:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by homerdacat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about your relationship with your boyfriend, respect his needs. Obviously, you feel like he doesn't care about you (you said) and he thinks the same of you. If you want to make this work, some change is definitely in order.
Stop flirting with other guys. You have your man. Make him happy. Give HIM your hugs, HIM your conversation. If you are not ready to do that, you are NOT ready for a relationship. It's not for selfish people.
Good luck!
2006-12-15 06:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by Bec P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I am guessing you are in high school. First off, if he is like this now he will never change. Trust me I am going through it now and I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year. He is insecure. point blank insecure. It is not your fault and if he ignores you and won't talk to you fine, let him have his space and see what happens, he will either get with the program or loose a good thing... good luck!!
2006-12-15 06:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by mj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not ur fault. Your bf should be understaning. Has along as u dont do noting serious with ur guy frens he should not fret about it. im sure he does the same with his gf frens but when u do it its a problem. Being jealous can be cute n also dangerous. you need to talk to him face to face cuz he seems to b insecure assure him that noting is happening between u n the other guys that ur just frens n he is the one u want.(thats if u want him) I think this might help clear up somethings. Goodluck!
2006-12-15 06:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by flavaza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are your goals for this relationship. DO YOU STILL LOVE HIM? This is a good opportunity for a revue. Maybe he gives you an excuse so you can say good bye first. If you feel your behaviour with other guys was o.k. than do nothing; apologize for hurting his feelings, if you wish, but keep in mind that obsessive jealousy cannot be cured. And if you were at fault, apologize and change your behaviour. Trust your heart. Good luck!
2006-12-15 06:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only been a few months and he is treating you like this - bossing you around and telling you who you can and cannot talk to. It's NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!! I'm sure you are a caring person, but remember, anyone who wants to control your actions in life, especially the ones with friends, doesn't deserve your time. Get over him and find yourself someone who does like you everyday.
2006-12-15 06:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by fierybluebutterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if a guy is jealous it is because he cares. sometimes they react the way they do is because they have absolutely no confidences in themselves and is afraid that they might lose you somehow. guys like this is hard to find and you should be happy. Yes i have to say it's your fault. why? well simple...if he was you and is always surround with girls, and giving them hugs. would you be ok with that? if your anwer is yes then it's just saying that you don't like him enough to actually understand what is love.
2006-12-15 06:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason you need to be flirting with other guys. Males and females cannot be friends by human nature, in most cases. That is why he doesn't like what you are doing.
2006-12-15 06:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋