I am so depressed that I'm losing weight, I really want him back , how can i ask him if he said no and then he said yes? i don't want to be rejected , should i ask him today? i will be leaving tomorow and i'll be back monday and he wants my cell number. and all he thinks about is ******* me, but i want him back , so please tell me how to get him back if he say's no, i just can't take it.
2006-12-15 06:34:25 · 11 answers · asked by twiggy_vienna_love 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need a white man.
2006-12-15 06:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
If he's indecisive don't waste your time.
I am in the same boat with you. I had my first son October of 2005. me and my sons father broke up when I was about eight months along. Then he came back talking about how he realized his mistakes and he wanted to be there for me and the baby and even played the let's get married card. It's now 2006 and sure enough in October of this year I had my second son and their father is no where around. But i did hear through the grapevine that he found another victim who will be having a baby sometime in january.
Think seriously before you make the move to ask him back, sometimes you're better off without him.
2006-12-15 07:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by torilynn :) 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
babes what i am going to say is going to be hard but necessary.
if a man does not want you- all of you- there is nothing you can do to change it!!!
if a man only wants you for HIS sexual gratfication, you are underestimating yrslf and allowing yrslf to be USED! DON"T!! you are worth more than to be some man's sex toy at his convenience!
do not subject your baby to a father like that. this is not a healthy family environment. it will be easier for him to understand that his parents could not make it together that to understand that it's only about lust. i do not believe that is the message you want to portray for your child.
i know that you love this guy a lot- it is obvious to even a stranger like me. however, i do believe you are committing emotional suicide and lowering your value.
time to take care of urslf and ur baby and put the baby's father in the past. he will still be around for the baby- hopefully, so u need to make yrslf hard. there is always that someone who will make ur heart pitty-patter yrs after a relationship has ended and maybe he is the one but he is not worth the stress on yrslf otherwise.
leave him as a wonderful memory and move on.
2006-12-15 06:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by stacy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. So you know what he wants (he wants to *****you)
But know you gotta let him know WHAT YOU WANT.
Tell him up front that you need a real man in your life who is going to be a father to your child. If he is not committed to being in a relationship, then you need to move on NOW. Trust me, you will fall in love with someone else who will be good for your little family.
*If he is not willing to be anything more than a *****buddy, then there is NOTHING you can do to win him back. His mind may not be on you like that. Just like you know he's the one, he should already feel that way about you. If he doesn't, move on.
2006-12-15 06:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by tbonz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you start with being friends and maybe asking him if he would like to spend some time with you and the baby, tell him that you think the baby needs both parents. and then you will see how he is around you. tell him that you are thinking what it would have been like if you two were still together and see how he reacts, and then you will know if he is even thinking about the two of you in that way. good luck
2006-12-15 06:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. If he says no then you can move on. It will take time but you can move on and get past the feelings that you have for him.
2006-12-15 06:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mystic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am a single mother- you want your child to know love and if he treats you badly it's not love- best advise- stand up and be an example of strength to your child with or without him.
2006-12-15 06:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by readytorun67 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, This happens with us black women. And hey. We gotta be STRONG.
2006-12-15 07:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have a baby with a baby father. That's just sick!
2006-12-15 06:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by rudytute 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell him that if you get together then you guys are an item. dont let him take advantage of you
2006-12-15 06:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋