IMO!
It's like the mothers don't really like to give what their children want but the dads spoil them the most!Lol.
Maybe only some ethnicities and cultures...I dunno.Haha.
2006-12-15 06:32:47 · 12 answers · asked by AWorldThatNeedsToCalmDown 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
umm because dads usually arent the ones having to deal with them lol, like me im a stay at home mom of 4 boys, so yea i do most of the punishments around here and im probably the "mean" one and dad the "nice" one. Oh well lol, he doesnt see them as much as i do, and by the time he gets home they have me wore out, and after spending everyday of the last 7 years with them. You bet im mean lol
2006-12-15 06:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure what the question is exactly... Im a single dad and so i have to be the nice guy and the bad guy... it works out great, they respect me and know that when they are good we can have a great time. I think its like that with a lot of families...
Maybe sometimes with the dad working all day, when he comes home he just wants to enjoy them for a while before bed. Can you really blame him? He knows that the kids will always be mommys boy/girl because thats who they are closest too, let the dads have their time with their kids! You know the kids don't really think about the fact that dads nicer then mom. Mom will do anything for them and the kids know that!
2006-12-15 08:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by eric 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for myself. I am easier on my kid because I just don't stress out over the little crap that my wife does.
If my daughter wants to have go to the dollar store and get a one dollar toy, I'll usually take her. Drives the wife nuts. She always says that I'm spoiling her.
I am the one that takes the phone calls from school when theres any kind of problem. She'll come tell me when she spills something, but will hide it from her mom for fear of getting yelled at. I dont make a big deal about it, we just take care of it.
I don't think its spoiling her, just teaching her some priorities. Some things are worth getting upset about, most aren't.
I enjoy spending time with my kid, she's smart and funny, and I learn as much from her as she does from me.
2006-12-15 06:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
our society has changed. men are no longer the authority. women have become more independent and men have sunk into the background. they seem to have enjoyed shifting the responsibility to women. this is a generalization and by no means will apply to everyone but you all know it is true. could you imagine a household in the 1950's where the woman was the breadwinner and the dad stayed home with the kids? like i said, this does not apply to everyone. in our family my husband works and i stay home with the kids but when we first got married i worked and he stayed home. they didn't do that 50 years ago.
2006-12-15 08:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by jimnmollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very broad generalization. In my home it does not apply. My husband and I share punishment duties as well as "the fun stuff". He takes them fishing, wrestles, and yes occasionally buys that new toy that they really don't need. I on the other hand get to spend all day with my kids being a SAHM. We cook together, shop together, do crafts together, walks and the park. So while we have different ways of giving our kids what they need, they definitely get it from both of us.
2006-12-15 07:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by bluekitty8098 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not that mother don't want to give their child what they want, it's that we are sooo busy raising you that, spoiling you is not top priority on our list, keeping you safe is. Dad's don't have the maternal bond mothers do, so most of them don't want to be the bad guy, so they let you get away with more, and spoil you hoping to have the same bond with you as your mother.
2006-12-15 06:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In our house it's because I am with the kids for nine hours a day without him, and he's home for three hours before they go to bed. He doesn't have to hear the same arguments and the same complaints twenty times a day, before I snap. he's there for maybe two of them. And he has a lot more patience and energy *because* he hasn't dealt with it all day.
We also think more about paying bills and running out of money, whereas dad's are thinking more spur-of-the-moment bribing their kids out of guilt. I would love to give the kids what they want, but it can't become a habit because we go out shopping with them more often than dad does with us.
2006-12-15 08:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most likely because the fathers aren't with the child as much as the mothers and want to make it up to them.
2006-12-15 06:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by Alison 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
all I can say is that you do not live in our house. Ask my daughters if you doubt me. I believe in giving my children absolutely everything it is within my power to give them. Unlike there dad, who wasn't brought up like that. No my girls aren't spoilt and if every I say NO, they know I mean it.
2006-12-15 07:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because the mom is usually the one left to be the "bad guy" or disciplinarian.
2006-12-15 07:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋