Say a guy is attracted to you. Is the direct approach the best way off asking a girl out? Starting with smiling at her, and saying hi I think your really beautiful my name is ………. And then she say’s her name and then just ask if she would like to go out for lunch or coffee. Would that work?
2006-12-15 06:29:23 · 38 answers · asked by T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not a girl, but I can tell you that you shouldn't be dropping compliments that heavy at the start. It MIGHT work on occasion, but you need to slow down and hav a little conversation first. It would help to get her phone number too. Have a nice day!
2006-12-15 06:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would think that smiling and saying hello, then maybe have some small talk about nothing, don't compliment her right away, she will know that you find her beautiful because you are talking to her, and then ask her if she would like to hang out and maybe grab a coffee or something. Direct approach is so much better! and don't do the stupid thing with 3 days if you get the phone number, you can call her the next day and just set something up for later in the week
2006-12-15 06:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on how much you already know her. If you know her real well, it should work, but if you know only a little, I would try to know more about her and then go with the direct approach then, but I think that the direct approach is the best way to do anything. Doing it other wise, I think, shows that you're a coward.
2006-12-15 06:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not if she is a stranger to you. She will think, you are after one thing, considering you don't even know her name!! Why would you want to go for a drink with someone, who could be really annoying or boring. People want to be asked out because they are special, not because they have a nice ****.
Most women are clued up these days and won't just hand their number out to anyone who approaches them asking for it. Even if they do like the look of them, it could be a scam, or they may be a stalker or they may relentlessly pester you, until you have to change your number.
If you know her though, its sometimes best to just be direct, get the job done and ask her.
Whatever you do don't play hard to get, no one likes a liar that keeps you waiting. Thats all that hard to get is! Tell her you think she's beautiful if you think she is, although this will probably make her feel a little uncomfortable, so make sure you move on from the subject quickly. Don't lie, don't show off, don't play too heavily for sympathy. Just be yourself and be very interested in her and you'll be chatting away, then say would you like to go for a drink with me some time?
Grrr!!! All these stupid people!! Its not beating around the bush if you don't know the person! Isn't there a single person on here that would actually want to get to know a person before they agreed to meet up with them?
2006-12-15 06:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, the basic introduction is good, but cut the "I think you're beautiful" because either the woman will demure and say no or she'll think you're a stalker. Or both.
Coffee is a great first start -- it's not even the time and scheduling commitment of lunch, so you'll get more yeses than nos.
You need to connect on something besides looks, because looks fade or can be brutally taken away in accidents. And if her looks are great but her personality is unlivable, your "pretty woman" will end up the ugliest monster on the planet to you.
Anyway, to connect on something besides looks, go to venues you like and look around at people in the area. Bookstores are really good because you can ask a woman looking over books if there's something in the genre she'd recommend or if she knows if that author is any good as she's looking over a few titles. Or if you've read the book she's looking at, you can say, "That's a really good one/not so good one." That starts the conversation asking her about authors and titles she does like so you can make recommendations -- make the conversation about HER interests first. Then, in the first lull in the conversation, say, "Oh, my name's [yourname], by the way; it's nice to meet you." or something like that.
Honest awkwardness is better than practiced suaveness. Suave guys feel greasy and like they're looking for one night stands and it shuts down women quickly.
At bars? "Hi, I'm so-and-so. Can I sit here?" or "Want to dance?" or whatever. That's because the women are looking for someone to have an intimate encounter with. You don't need to build common interests, just listen actively.
2006-12-15 06:43:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jess B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Gorgeous, get 'em off and lay down right there - is guaranteed to send you to your grave with the foil wrapper intact on your excuse for a manhood.
I'm actually surprised about the fact that I'm still surprised - It's not a race to see how quickly you can pop your cherry - it's a once in a lifetime experience - pick the moment, the person, even the music in the background VERY carefully.
Have you ever considered talking to a girl, rather than talking AT her?
2006-12-15 06:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Words sound right---but women look at every detail, so be aware of this.
1-your grooming matters--she is judging every aspect of your grooming, clothes, etc. When you approach her, look as good as possible--prepare. This shows her that you care about her opinion of you.
2-pay attention ONLY to her---not to your friends, not to other girls, not to anyone else. If you are trying to get a date, or are on a date, SHE must have your full attention. Otherwise, she will wonder if you are serious at all.
2006-12-15 06:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Direct A is ok: facing her, making suggestions, leading the conversation, making humour out of every little thing & every reaction too.
Don't try direct B: Hello you, I'm ..., wanna sleep with me?
out on me
2006-12-15 07:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by Wise Kai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on what her personality is. Some girls like that kind of stuff, but some girls might find it fake. I would tell her that you really like her and would like to take her out some time. Find out what you have in common and that could be a real conversation starter to show that you are interested in her. Good luck!!
2006-12-15 06:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by nagolesile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile, approach her, introduce yourself.....get talking (say you've noticed her around) then ask if she would like coffee sometime. Good luck Don't say she's beautiful straight away...too much too soon trust me...be a bit cool but not too cool get my drift.
2006-12-15 06:32:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋