...she thinks he'll creep about in the dark and perhaps steal some of her toys. I told her Santa is a nice man but she says "Mummy, I'm scared" and "will you sleep with me?" and "Can we lock the door?"
Do you think it is time to tell her the truth? But then she will think I'm evil for creating such a ficticios nightmare. I don't want to be a bad mother. What shall I do?
And if I tell her, shold I cancel her stocking?
2006-12-15 06:25:08 · 29 answers · asked by Josephine 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
What has she been hearing about strangers to be like this in the first place. I have always found it strange how parents spend all year telling their kids to avoid strangers then go and put them on the knee of one as soon as it gets to Christmas and wonder why they cry?
Ask her if she really does believe in Santa. If she says no then say - you're right. If she says yes then you can maybe write a letter together asking for Rudolph to come and deliver her presents instead this year - tell her he's been doing the job so long he's due for promotion.
2006-12-15 06:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you never sat down and really explained Santa to her. My kids have always loved Santa except when they were babies. I can't believe that a 7 year old would be creeped out by Santa. Let alone creeped out that he would steal her toys. It's SANTA - he makes the toys! Santa doesn't wander through houses anyways, he deposits the loot in the living room where the tree is. Even if your daughter finds out about Santa, she still deserves stockings and presents! You should sit down and tell her about Baby Jesus and the true meaning of Christmas and that Santa is a nice man from the North Pole that helps deliver presents to all the good boys and girls!
You never tell your kids the truth about Santa because as she gets older she will figure it out, but everyone still believes at this age and to tell her will ruin it for everyone, everyone in her class, all her friends because when you learn something new, something juicy, what do you do? Exactly, you spread the word! Do not ruin this for your daughter or everyone around!
Plus you say she will hate you for creating such a ficticios nightmare?! What are you talking about? One, you didn't invent him and Two, are you the one that told her a creepy old bearded man comes in her bedroom?!
2006-12-15 16:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by cool chic 2no 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
EVERYONE knows that Santa only stays in the room where the Christmas trees are. He never takes the chance of going into bedrooms because if he did, then you would see him and the magic of Christmas would be lost forever. And you and all the other kids who believe in Santa would not get Christmas anymore.
Here's another one, I just thought of....
Santa CAN'T come in your room he's too busy delivering presents....that's why you leave the milk and cookies out on Christmas Eve. See Santa is only allowed to come down the chimney (or use his magic Santa key if you don't have a fireplace) and put presents under the tree. When he's done doing that, he looks around the room to be sure everything is just right and all the presents are there. When he does that, he sees the cookies and milk and remembers he has more presents to delivery and up the chimney (or whatever) he goes.
2006-12-15 23:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by PolarBare 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't burst her bubble just yet. Ask her if she would prefer to leave her stocking in the living room rather than her bedroom! Most kids of her age are only too well aware of the dangers inour world today, and perhaps the idea of a stranger coming into her room is freaking her out ... not unduly so either. If the living room idea works, then cool .. leave it for another day. If not, then perhaps its time to tell her not to worry as she is a big girl now and Santa leaves thepresent buying up to you now!!
2006-12-15 15:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by lynne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww...that's so sad. Can you tell her that Santa comes down the fireplace and only walks around the living room? Afterall..Santa has a LOT to do that night and he can't waste time hanging out in your daughter's room. He'll be in the living room for less than a minute and then he'll be back up in his sleigh going to the next house.
If you want to tell her...then you can tell her about the real St Nick who gave gifts/money to poor children and that it's his spirit that lives on. So maybe a fat guy in a red suit doesn't come to the house...but the spirit of Christmas and santa lives in all of us...peace on earth, sharing and spreading joy and cheer, etc.
Hope that helps!
mari
2006-12-15 14:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by mari m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 7 year old too. I told him that Santa isn't real but, a spirt. Then I told him about St. Nick, and that it is the tradition of Santa that presents are left not that a stranger is coming into the house. I hope this helps you.
2006-12-15 17:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by Shel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How ever did she get the idea that Santa is creepy? Well, if she is absolutely horrified of the Santa idea then I would invent some other fictional character...something she likes. A Christmas fairy maybe? Sugar Plum fairy?? She might warm up to that. I wouldn't cancel her stocking or presents though. Christmas should be a happy and magical time for kids.
2006-12-15 15:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Suzanne S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you can do something new this year. If you absolutly dont want to tell her the truth maybe you can change the place "Santa" will leave her stocking. Maybe outside her door or in the livingroom. Do what it takes to help her sleep at night. You dont want to make her have a fear of Christmas because of Santa.
2006-12-15 14:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by Tori 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all why would you tell her he would be in her bed room?? Santa only goes to our living room, puts the toys under the tree then leaves.
Yes I think now would be a good time to tell her the truth, and no don't cancel her stocking, just tell her that your the one that fulls it and puts it out for her.
2006-12-15 14:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she's totally freaking, yes, I'd say the truth is in order. She's 7, so she's getting to be to be the age where she'd know the truth anyway, so it may not be a complete surpise to her. No, I wouldn't cancel her stocking. Heck, we (4 kids in my family) got stockings well into our teen years, and obviously we hadn't believed in santa for a long long time.
2006-12-15 14:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋