Guys and I are always friends and nothing more. There have been times where I think a guy likes me, then it turns out that I was thinking about it too much. There is this one guy who is two years younger than me, I am a senior in high school. I know that he has had a crush on me since June. He and I sat together at church on Sunday, he took off one of my rings and put it on his thumb and then wanted to put it on himself. A lot of his attitude, was that he liked me. Then, on Wednesday he came up while I was talking to someone else, then he left for a minute and never came back. I think he likes me. Why am I always the friend, and never the girlfriend? Thanks in advance!!
2006-12-15 06:12:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
While I do agree that you should wait because you are in school, I will say for you not to make age a big deal. If you ABSOLUTELY have to have a relationship I'd say give this guy a chance.... but if you are in church, that's an awesome place to start! Talk to God and ask that His will be done..... and then if nothing, hang in there.... love is out there for you! But get your education under you... NEVER depend on a man to support you and if you have your education, you can get anything! Love will come in time! Right now, too, be happy you have so many guy friends... you know you'll have somebody to stand up for you if a boyfriend breaks your heart!
2006-12-15 06:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by mom4ivp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're picking the wrong boys. He's what- 15 years old? That's not immature enough to know how to handle a girlfriend! That's too young for a high school senior. You should finish up your school year, enroll in college or whatever you have planned, and meet a guy who is 18-19 to date. Don't pick 15 year old high school sophomores who have a little crush on you- that's just silly.
2006-12-15 14:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. It's difficult for everyone....especially in high school where you all have a particular role/group that you belong to. That will change soon.
Some people get to be 40 and never have a grown up relationship..so when I talk about growing up I don't mean because you are in HS.
Growing up means being honest about your feelings and putting yourself out there (yuck!).
Here's the key...ready? honesty
In an adult relationship you have to risk being vulnerable a lot....and that means you get shut down a lot (lol). The good news is, you can learn to laugh at yourself and you will get better at it. And then, as you get to know yourself better one of two things will happen... First, if you stick with it and are gentle with yourself.... you will start to have loving, caring quality relationships full of give and take or if you give up or choose not to grow up (lol) you become a yahoo playa full of schticks, lines, crap and living out your shallow existance in cyber rooms on virtual dates... rofl
2006-12-15 14:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still young. I didn't have a boyfriend in high school because guys would just play games with me so I was never really a girlfriend at all. Just realize that they are still BOYS. They're not MEN. So they will be immature.
God will bring you the right guy in His time. Just have faith in Him.
2006-12-15 14:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be unsure of himself but loves you. He wants you to be his THE girl friend only that means this where the unsure word comes in. If you LOVE him please ask him holding his hands if he feels the same for you honestly also tell him that you love him. With out communication you are behind the curtain and both would make wrong assumption. Open the communication Line.
2006-12-15 14:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by sns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consider yourself lucky..I was always the friend and never the girlfriend especially in highschool, 5 years later, I am marrying my friend. Just wait..being every guys friend just means that you have the pick of the litter..give it a couple years.
2006-12-15 14:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, silly monkey head if he came up to you it is because he wants to talk to you. If you don't act interested then you can expect him to become your friend with all the others.
You are a girl. You have it easier than guys. What is wrong with you?
2006-12-15 14:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by Slappin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry I was always the friend in high school too, your time will come I PROMISE i'm 31 now and I wish guys would sometimes just want to be my friend, it's funny
2006-12-15 14:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what do you look like? Not being rude, but HS boys are just that, boys.. It's all about the physical aspect when you're a hormone-raged teen. Don't worry about it. College is where it's at. :)
2006-12-15 14:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its because of your approach. maybe you should change your attitude. because you will always be the friend if you are considered one of the guys. and this boy you talk about, age aint nothin but a number and just ask him if he likes you dont be scared
2006-12-15 14:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by Pr!nc3$$ 3nvy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋