My Mother in Law is horrible. She has done loads of stuff from not buying xmas and b'day pressies for her sons to not going to his wedding to snubbing me on my birthday and borrowing money and never paying it back and bascially bit*hing all the time about everyone. She is married and they are well off but are tight and selfish. They never visit and never offer to help with doing anything in their kids houses even though he is a DIY man he charges his sons £50 a day!!!For our wedding pressie she got a piccie of my dog which my dad took (not her!) and photocopied it on A4 paper and framed it in a plastic clip frame. That is what shes like and its not all about money she does it deliberately., She is so hateful and I've always been nice to her. Well enough is enough - this xmas for her pressie I have got a piccie from our wedding with everyone in it who went including my parents and framed it in a cheap frame from the local pound shop what do you all think? It makes me feel better.
2006-12-15 05:43:48 · 50 answers · asked by Katie G 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
obviously this will pee her off as she never went - me giving her the finger I think.
2006-12-15 05:45:41 · update #1
by the way I have tried ot talk to her about it and was really nice and diplomatic and she never got me a card or pressie for my birthday and has been nasty to me everytime I visit so she just doesn't care.
2006-12-15 05:54:59 · update #2
sorry that you have the total opposite of my mother in law.
she is great.
but rise abouve those things, as YOU ARE BETTER than her.
2006-12-15 05:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am afraid you cant change your family..I have a similar problem so just have as little to do with them as possible and when we meet I just smile and ignore them as much as I can without being rude!I have done the same thing with pressies in the past but they actually got us something decent last year so maybe they got the message.The year before she gave me a scented candle I had given her the year before...Just remember in the end you've done nothing to deserve this and its there problem not yours..get on with your own life and enjoy your family ..its them who's missing out in the end
2006-12-15 05:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The way I've learnt to deal with nasty cruel people like that is to be exceptionally nice to them - no matter how much it kills you! They will know you're not being sincere but won't be able to say anything bad about you - it will annoy the hell out of her and the game playing should keep you so amused you'll forget how much her attitude and behaviour used to get to you!
2006-12-15 09:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by Poppy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You know..i think you sound very angry,and for a logical reason too,have you discussed this issue with your partner.I never used to get on with my mother in Law..it can take years to buld up a relationship.Sound like she has her own problems and may be taking them out on you..people who take about other people in the way you describe are "gossoping"..i would give her a wide birth and just get on with your own life,do not invite nher anymore..if she want sto get involved in the future she does it on your terms..you and your husband must take a "team force"stand on this.Stop feeling personal about everything she does,ignore her and just focus on your children and your family,and i ccan tell you fro experince that just because she has money it does,nt mean for one minute that she is happy.Stop trying to be nice and back off,do not be rude just say"hi..how are you"..goodbye.
i have been through this.
2006-12-15 09:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you have such a horrible women for a mother in law and it's a shame that your husband had such a horrible unloving mum growing up.
don't bother sending her anything as she's not worth the effort, just concentrate on your family and your husband etc
the saying goes
a daughter's a daughter for life
but a son's a son till he takes a wife.
this women will never be happy and will sponge off you always she sounds bitter and not a very nice person.
try and ignore her and concentrate on you and your hubby
2006-12-15 05:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by AARONLEE AND SASHA 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, if it makes you feel better. Sometimes parents and in laws are like that. I would continue getting her Christmas presents if you want to but I would spend a whole lot of money on them. Oh, by the way have you thought about telling her how you feel. And another thing I would not loan Mrs. Money bags anymore money.
2006-12-15 05:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by kitcat 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Give her a serious B*tch Slapping. Sounds like the only thing that may actually work on that dreadfully narcissistic ruffian and a feculent, sock-sucking cause of suffering to her parents.
2006-12-15 07:35:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the way i deal with this kind of thing is...treat them like they treat you....i wouldn't even put the picture in a frame...an old used Christmas card envelope is enough...she's a snob, she thinks she's a cut above th rest...are you sure she's not related to my ex MIL....don't let her ruin your Christmas....have a great time and show her what happiness is all about...she's bitter and twisted about something...let her stew i her own juices
2006-12-15 07:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes you just like her. Don't stoop to her level, because then she wins. She wants to upset you and you know that. Just don't let her get to you like that. Be nice no matter what she does. She problably won't ever change, but don't let her make you change for the worse. Step back and take a look at what she's done!
2006-12-15 05:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by matters 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good on you. She sounds really really horrible. I feel sorry for your husband though as he must be torn between his feelings for her and his love for you. I hope she doesn't spoil things long term.
PS I wouldn't have given the old c0w anything. My stepmother's an evil witch and I'd sooner pull my own toenails out than give her a present!
2006-12-15 05:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm not saying all mothers-in-law are terrible beasts, but mine sure is. I'm accused of "stealing her son from his family because I don't like her/them." Whatever. Anyway, try talking to your husband about it. Try this for a while. Don't just say, "I hate your mom." Say something like, "does it bother you when she does _______?" Sorry to say it, this could go on for a while. Ease up if he starts getting defensive about his mom, and don't make him feel like he has to choose between her and you. Also you could just tell him "your mother and I have had some differences and I want to talk to her about them. I just wanted to let you know that I'm going to do this so you don't feel like I'm trying to be sneaky about it." I'm saying all this assuming you and your mother-in-law haven't really had a big blow-up.
Some mothers-in-law (like mine) do all they can to make a daughter-in-law angry and then act all innocent to their baby boys so the boys side with them and so the wife looks like a crazy, lying b*tch. It took my mother-in-law calling me (screaming) the "b*tch who stole her son and grandkids (we only have one child) from her" in front of him and our daughter before he was really sick of it. They do this because they can't stand the fact that another woman is important in their sons' lives and he makes important decisions with someone else besides her. Good luck and stay strong, but don't push him. You may just have to take the bull by the horns and tell her what you think.
2006-12-15 05:55:33 · answer #11 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋