Different religion beliefs in a relationship..can it work?

Question

I am Christian, and my b/f is well its hard to explain...he put it that he is Pagan/Atheist, but doesn’t practice Pagan ways...but he also doesn’t believe in God and such, or something to that effect anyways! Here’s the other thing. I believe in god...I believe that Jesus died for us, I pray here and there (whether for myself or others that may need help), but I also know that I am not at that point in my life to fully accept the commitment it takes to be a Christian. In other words I don’t live by the bible but yet there are some things in the bible I do believe in. My b/f often worries that his beliefs may upset me, but he doesn’t seem to understand that I am not like most Christians we have run into. He has a right to believe what he wants and no matter what I still love him. I am not the type to get into religious arguments to prove I am right and he is wrong kind of thing…just not my style.

So here’s my question (actually 2)…do you think this will cause a rift in our relationship down the line? We have talked about marriage as well.

The other kicker is my mom is very religious (Christian as well)…she knows my views but I am afraid that if she found out his views that may cause a problem with her…she likes him a lot, but do you think that will change as well when she finds out about his beliefs?

**I will not let her be the deciding factor as far as marrying him…I love him and can look passed this, but she is also a factor in whether this works. (if she ends up not liking him, that causes a rift between her and I and in turn affects my relationships) hope that makes sense

Answer 1

Here's my take - if God and Christ are important enough to you, it will always bother you that he doesn't share the same belief. I mean that's a pretty major thing to not be on the same page on. If you want to practice your beliefs and be active in church, I can pretty much guarantee it will be neigh impossible if you marry him. However, I'm not sure how committed to God you are just from the tone/feeling I get from your question. There are soooo many guys out there, and you just have to decide what qualities are essential for your guy to have, just like anything else. If he doesn't have any of those "must have" qualities, then end it.

Answer 2

You are a Christian. You believe He died on the cross for our sins and salvation. You are making an all too common mistake when you think you'll one day be good enough to be a "real" Christian. Christ died for our sins before we were even here to commit them because He knew the sin nature we would have to contend with in our lives here on earth.HE knew that we would fail and He died to defeat Satan for all time and eternity for us.The bible tells us not to be unequally yoked. Not to be united with a non-believer.You have a serious decision to make. Statistics are 50% of all marriages fail. I think that is because we are naturally more agreeable when we are in love. Reality is you will be cleaning toilets and he will be taking out the trash. Kind of breaks the fantasy into reality. Reality is after all the mushy stuff wears off you will be in a relationship with someone that contradicts your Christian beliefs. Even more when you have children this will most certainly be an issue. Do you really want your children's father to be telling them there is no God? Yes it will cause problems. You really already know that. This is one of those times to go to our Father in prayer. I will say a prayer for you at this writing so your thoughts will be clear. You're either are a Christian or you're not. Eternity is a long time to be wrong dear. Merry Christ'mass.

Answer 3

2 Corinthians 6:14--Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

That's your answer right there. If you're a believer, apply GOD'S word to your life completely. If GOD says it, then GOD meant it. The BIBLE is real. Bible is Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth!!!

The answer to your question is yes, it will cause problems.