I havent spoke to my niece ( she ignores me and greets everyone else in the room) since Feb, my sister (her Mother) was and still is very ill.
She took her anger out on me one day, asked me to leave the house ( I was living with them) said horrible things and her hurt me very badly.
Considering she is going through a bad stage and she is 13.
And my sisters conditions....Today is her Birthday should I ignore it?
She did mention she never wanted to see me again and she hated me!
Ps : I did nothing to her....she was just angry that I am close to my sister.
2006-12-15 05:33:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Blood is thicker than water, and you are the adult. Drop a card and gift off for her.
2006-12-15 05:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by marie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is still a little girl, a minor! I would send her wishes, either by text or a card. She probably resents you because you are well and her mum is ill. She is not mature enough to express her emotions and feelings, and I believe you should show her that you still love her, even if it is keeping quiet, but just being there! She will soon sort her feelings out!! But You are the grown up here, so I would certainly make an effort to offer some form ofgreeting ... otherwise you will just give her another reason to 'hate' you! 13 year olds are rough going at the best of times ... so don't worry, she will snap out of it. Good luck!!
2006-12-15 05:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by lynne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her to deal with her emotions on her own. I believe she is afraid of what's going to happen to her mother. But even with that; to disrespect you is still unacceptable. The situation with you and living with your sister and your niece; there is some hostility there for some reason. There is always three sides to every story. Your side, their side and the truth. So she may have a reason why she did that to you. But from this perspective, it seems very disrespectful. So I don't think that a gift of any sort is necessary. Until an apology comes; if warranted. Then you can possibly start on a more respectful relationship with one another.
2006-12-15 06:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thirteen year olds say terrible things at the best of times without the added factor that her mother is ill. I'm sure she'd welcome you with open arms if you did all the running - she's a child and still too young to understand about compromising. She probably took her anger out on you because you're one of the people closest to her. Give her a big hug and good luck!
2006-12-15 09:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only a child, 13 is a bad enough age to be even if you dont need to worry about your mum being seriously ill. Speak to her, but be aware that she is probably going to keep acting like this with you for a long time. Just keep on tyring for as long as it takes. She needs you to be supportive.
Dont ever ignore her birthday, its the best time to try and make up.
2006-12-15 05:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by pob 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the 'grown-up' so I would get her a nice card (and maybe a small gift or a little bit of money?) And not make a fuss about it?? It could break the ice and help make a better relationship.
I have had kids storm out claiming they hate me, but given time and not treating them badly, they came round. I don't suppose her mom being ill helps her, either. Hope this helps
2006-12-15 05:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by judy m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and make amend's.She sound's hurt and a little jealous.But for your sisters sake try.Don't ignore the B_Day.You are the adult here show her there are no hard feeling's be a peace maker.People in pain will lash out at whoever is near.
2006-12-15 05:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by flossie mae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your niece is probably going through a harmonal stage, but you're an adult so just be friendly with her and talk things through, and I'm sure everything will turn out fine!
2006-12-15 06:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by nisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's upset because her mum is sick...she has no one else to take it out on...she will be fine...get her a present and take it to her....13 year olds are hard to deal with at the best of times...i am sure she didn't mean anything she said to you...she's having a terrible time, if she flys off at you like that again, try and sit her down and find out why she is targeting you....just be there for her....she'll come round soon enough
2006-12-15 07:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will need to speak to her eventually - for some reason - may well be now and not at a time of great stress for both of you. Mend your break with a smile and a kindness it will come back double fold.
2006-12-19 01:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a little kid in a bad situation.
You may not be able to sort things out till she's ready - and that may not be now.
But you should do the right thing by her regardless of her attitude.
Send her a card and present.
(I'd send in the post, or get someone else to take it round, rather taking it round yourself.)
2006-12-15 05:43:58 · answer #11 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋