I havent spoke to my niece ( she ignores me and greets everyone else in the room) since Feb, my sister (her Mother) was and still is very ill.
She took her anger out on me one day, asked me to leave the house ( I was living with them) said horrible things and her hurt me very badly.
Considering she is going through a bad stage and she is 13.
And my sisters conditions....Today is her Birthday should I ignore it?
She did mention she never wanted to see me again and she hated me!
Ps : I did nothing to her....she was just angry that I am close to my sister.
2006-12-15 05:30:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just ignore her. if she wants to act like a little girl then let her. whatever you go through in life is no excuse to act like that.
2006-12-15 05:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by theoriginalsource 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of how horrible she is, I don't think she would get angry just because you are close to your sister, most kids grow up seeing that. Maybe you offended her without knowing it.
Anyway she's 13, that gives her the right to act like a kid. What's your excuse? If you truly care for our sister its your oblugation to care for her child. Maybe if she's just difficult you could seek the mediation of another family member who can help.
She may really, really need you now so go ahead and talk to her. Remember you both love your sister so start fom there. Tell her how all this affects your sister and if she gets worde then you'll need each other even more. In her childish way she may be dealing with her mother's codition, maybe she needs counselling to help. Just talk to her or get her a postcard and write a letter for sarters. Do it for your sister,
If she resists, maybe you could try speaking to her a couple time before you give up.
ALL THE BEST
2006-12-15 14:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by ayanagin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think being as she is only 13 you should try and make it up to her, You are the adult and I'm not condoning her behaviour but we all remember what we were like at that age. Also she is probably sad that her Mum is ill and I reckon you should go see her and buy her a pressie and offer to make up and have a nivce chat with her. Maybe telling her you care about her Mum as much as she does and that she wouldn't want you two to fall out would help. Do what you can and if she still is a cow then just keep going round there (she has no right to chuck you out of the house anyway) and be polite to her and thats it. Don't tolerate the behaviour and don't let it get to you.
2006-12-15 13:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by Katie G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't ignore it. Now is the time to take the first step in trying to heal your relationship with her. The anger has gone on too long. She is 13, and I'm sure she is feeling lost and confused by her mother's illness. Right now she needs love and understanding. Children that age do not understand how to grieve over the loss of normalcy in their lives. She needs your understanding right now. But I'm guessing that she doesn't know how to bridge the gap she made between you two. Take the first step. It may not work, but at least you will have tried. and keep trying. I've found with my daughters that when they get angry like that sometimes the best thing to do is just walk right up to them while they are screaming and yelling and hug them hard and tell them I love them. thats all it takes for them to settle down and get to the real issue thats bothering them.
2006-12-15 13:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by sunflower38024 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a rude little girl, no matter what she's going through it wasn't her place to tell you to get out of her parents home, your sister's home, you have a right to see your sister and this niece of yours needs to learn some manners,
it's up too you if you ignore her birthday or not she will continue to be rude whether you send her a card and gift or not, maybe you can speak to your sister and tell her to have a word with her daughter as to why she's being so rude to you
2006-12-15 13:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by AARONLEE AND SASHA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you r talking about a child....love her no matter what. She is scared of her mothers illness, all you can do is hold on, just because she is young and a bad niece at times doesnt mean you should be a bad aunt.
2006-12-15 13:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by wayfunlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 13 and her mother is very ill. Kids that age esp. girls say all sorts of horrible things even on a good day. I think you should be extra nice to her. She needs you. goodluck.
2006-12-15 13:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by cheese food product 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her get to you. You're her aunt and your sister needs support. If you're niece can't deal that, she's just being a brat. "kill her with kidness" don't get upset at her but just be nice about it and it'll throw her off. Besides, at 13, she shouldn't be acting so immature.
2006-12-15 13:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go visit your sister. She wont always be around if she is in bad health. Nevermind the 13 year old kid. She can like you or not, but her mother and you will always be sisters.
2006-12-15 13:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So? My whole family is like that and I don't give a crap. They can do what they want and I will do what I want. They know they'll get a sackful if they even think about interfering in my life.
Sound sto me as though this is something that you need to do.
2006-12-15 15:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋