I have been with my b/f over a year now and he broke his leg acting stupid on a ATV drunk one day.I had a question posted on here about me paying his satellite bill and most people said dump him you will not get your money back etc. Well, I just flat out called him and told him that I was going to tell him something he wanted to hear to forget about the money. So, he paid me and we are still somewhat together. He manages to do some things, wash clothes, go out, etc. But his house is reeking of nasty dishes that he wants me to wash and with all that time at home, I figure he could wash them this time since he is the one that messed them up. I am feeling like the sex is no good anymore, I'm having to carry everything for him - I even told him he wouldn't have done this for me. He says he has gotten closer to me since all of this and I feel the opposite. I want to go out with someone else but I haven't told him yet. He wants me to pay his cell bill until his taxes come in. Should I?
2006-12-15 05:29:07 · 29 answers · asked by K-E-G 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I suggest you dont.He's just seems to be using you for things that he's too lazy to do.If he has enough strength to go out,he can definately wash dishes.Dont even pay his bill.The money he's uses to go out, he should save up or pay his bill in payments. As far as going out with other people,it sounds as if your mind is already made up,but you just feel sorry for the guy. You work hard for what you've got and I'm sure you are great at taking care of yourself when it comes to bills and shopping and housework. It's time you get somebody who wants to pamper you,and not party till they injure themselves. Dont feel bad if you want to go out with someone else and have a good time.It seems he can and does it very well,even when injured. If for some reason you do decide to pay his bill,write out a contract with an estimated date to pay you back in full,have him sign it you sign it and a trusted friend to be a witness or a notary to also sign it.Many times people say they'll pay you back and give a hard time in doing so,especially if you might break up with him he'll hold it against you. Hope you make the right choice.
2006-12-15 05:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by Crazy7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know how many people end up in court because of this very same situation? He or she promised to pay but didn't. So matters were disputed in court. Just have the cell phone turned off, temporarily. This way the bill doesn't accrue interest.
2006-12-15 05:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by slobberknocker_usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, theres no guarantee he will pay you back and if he doesn't you have no way to force him to pay you back.
Of course he's feeling really happy with the relationship he gets to sit on his a$$ all day and wait for you to do everything he can't be bothered to do without paying like he would a maid plus he gets sex thrown in too.
If he goes out he can wash the dishes.
Dump him he's a loser and he's using you
2006-12-15 05:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO. IS it your cell phone? No! Don't pay for anything that is not your own. If you get into the habbit of loaning out cash, eventually someone will cheat you! It's amazing who will do this sort of thing too. I had a best friend for like five years. She owes me $50.00. I havent heard from her in two years or more and I thought I could trust her!
2006-12-15 05:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't! It sounds like he is using you. Tell him how you feel, and tell him that is the reason why you are dumping him and that you want to go out with other people. Just be up front with him and don't give him a chance to argue or you might fall back for him. When it's over, it's over, no matter how hard it is.
Good luck to you
2006-12-15 05:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sattelite and cell service are not essetials. I would not pay for any of it. Especially since you are really not into him anymore. Tell him he can stay until his leg is better, but then he has to go. and don't ask him to do anything else around the house. He'll just throw it up in your face later.
2006-12-15 05:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by discokevin2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not pay his cell phone bill....why can't he pay for it?! I've seen too many court shows that involve someone owing the other for cell phone debt. Plus, if your ready to end the relationship then do it! Why are sticking around? You are feeling like he would not do the same for you and it sounds like your not happy!!! Leave him and find someone who will treat you better!!!
2006-12-15 05:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! Don't pay it. You have just said you want to go out with someone else. You need to either talk to him to resolve the issues you have with him or leave the relationship. It sounds like he depends on you and you should have someone more independent that loves you.
2006-12-15 05:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do, get it in writing. Get a specific date his payment is due. Charge him interest. Otherwise, soon you will be paying everything for him.
If you plan to leave then now is the perfect time. Go and don't look back.
2006-12-15 05:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a second. I was about to say "yeah, he is playing you", but then I thought about it.
It seems to me you are looking for a reason to break up with this guy.
You say he's good for something, but that you want to date someone else.
You need to just move on for both your sakes. What kind of girlfriend are you if you are dating one guy who cares about you, but you want to go out with someone else?
Paying his bills helps you feel less guilty about what you really want to do?
2006-12-15 05:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by vicarious_notion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋