We fell in love, dated for 6 months and I got scared and left her, cold, it was awful. She met someone else, so did I. When I was in the new realtionship I realized how amazing my ex was this was enough to end my relationship. We bumped into eachother randomly after I'd been thinking about her constantly. We started hanging out and eventually slept together. She seems happy with her situation now, even though it's long distance. I know that things are about to get complicated, but where do I go from here? Do I just drop it? Do I attempt to convice her to leave her current situation? I feel like I'm breaking in two.
2006-12-15 05:25:13 · 14 answers · asked by contortion_project 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh- what a lovely woman! She's lying, betraying and cheating on her new lover, having sex with her former lover, who dumped her cold. See if you can get her to dump her current lover as coldly as you dumped her because you two clearly deserve each other! In fact, you should call her lover and tell him exactly what you've been doing with her and to her.
2006-12-15 05:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if she perceives things between you two to be as grand as you say they are....then she wouldn't be in this other relationship. She probably gives you excuses for why she is still with him, but the bottom line is - If she loves you and not him she would be with you. I'd back off. If she wants you than she will leave him. If she doesn't leave him than she doesn't want you. Think long and hard though. Do you really want someone with no qualms about cheating?
2006-12-15 05:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a serious talk with her and tell her what you really feel. Bear in mind that you were the one that left her, maybe she will not trust herself to love you completely again but is with you now because there is no committment. Before you talk to her be sure you are ready to offer her a real relationship, be sure its not just the feeling at the moment but you are truly ready to committ to her.
Maybe you need to just talk to her about your feelings and willingness to committ ask her to leave her bf but don't try to convince her. She should know what is best for her or how she feels. I would tell you to think of her bf but thats her responsibility and sometimes we don't know what we have till its gone.
If she comes back hopeyou remember to treat her right.
If you don't try to get her back you'll never know what could have been, maybe she's the one for you.
GOOD LUCK.
2006-12-15 05:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by ayanagin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are you need to kck back and talk to your self because no one deserves to not know that their mate is in love with someone else be a man and telll your new g/f the deal and see how she reacts to this its not fair and i personally feel like this you and the ex are still boy and girl NOT man and woman the two of you need to grow up that is why aids is growing faster than new born babies go be with your ex the two of you are just alike no good cheaters made for one another remember what goes around comes around you will be the boy at home while your love is out cheating
2006-12-15 05:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are immature. You want what you can't have. Once you get it the thrill is gone. I wouldn't try to convince her to leave. Why should she trust you again? If it works out, great. But you don't have the right to try to make things happen again between you two. Plus, you probably only want her because she has somebody else.
You will have to wait and see and you may have to chock it up to one of life lessons. Don't bail on people cause you may regret it later.
2006-12-15 05:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by Angie@ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be concerned that she is cheating on someone else with you. She is using you and then going home to her partner. Even if she left the guy she is with now wouldn't you be worried about her cheating on you? You need to get on with your life and not be their when she feels like seeing you. This situation could go on forever and leave you alone.
2006-12-15 05:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by Caterina C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say break up her relationship. Normally I would say no, but if you're serious about her (are you serious about her???) I say go for it. If she was happy w/ the other guy she wouldn't be messing with you. I know guys cheat for no reason, but usually if a girl is stepping out, it's b/c she's she not happy.
BUT before you take the plunge, I would make sure she is serious about you as well. Make sure she's not just using you b/c her guy is out of town. I'm in a LD relationship and I have to admit, it can get lonely.......
2006-12-15 05:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sarbanes Ox 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you really want to be the "guy on the sidelines"? You may love her and that's fine, but if she's not going to leave the guy she's with now then, yea... you're going to be the other guy for awhile. You're setting yourself up for a broken heart. you should re-consider this relationship. Is a broken heart really worth it?
2006-12-15 05:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think you should just see where things go and tell her how you feel about her. tell her the truth about being scared and you want the relationship back. whats the worst that can happen. she could say she dont want to be with you aymore but than youll know your answer. if she says no than maybe it just wasnt ment to be. good luck.
2006-12-15 05:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by laughwithashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her u were wrong the first time, tell her u r in love, tell her u were constantly thinking of her, u broke up for her, tell her u can't live without her. ask her to leave her b/frd. if she says no, respect her decision and leave her life or else u'll end up really hurt.
2006-12-15 05:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by disco ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋