ok . . . my gf broke up with me back in march and said she wanted to date around and see whats out there and all that good stuff after a 2 year relationship. . she starts dating this kid i went to high school with 2 weeks later . . . i hate the kid so its obviously a bad situation for me . . . so i try to get her back for about 2 months and in the middle of june i went NC . . on our 2 year anniversery at the beginning of july she send me a text that says . . "today was two year" just to remind me of it i guess . . . and ever since that text she has been calling/texting/leaving voicemail/or emailing me once atleast ever 2-3 weeks . . . a few times in was 2-3 times in a week . . . i have not responded to her or anything . . . so its been 5 months and its still going on .. .she is still with this same guy so she obviously knows we cant be friends be cause of the situation.. . . . . .so why does she keep trying to contact me?. .
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21 minutes ago
when they first started dating she even admitted part of the reason was because he was there and she hates being alone
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49 minutes ago
this is her latest message
hey (name)!! hows it goin? boy, youve sure been hard to get a hold of lately! i was thinkin about stoppin by sometime, so unless i hear otherwise from you ill see you soooon!! k byeee!!
<3 (name)
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2 days ago
i dont want to know what u people think i should do . .. just want to know what u think she is thinking
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this is the latest message i just got tonight
heyyyyyyy (name)....are you done not talking to me yet?? just wonderin if you wanted to hang out sometime or atleast come visit and see my house!! well please get back to me and let me know!! :)
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19 minutes ago
she just sent me another email saying that she wants me to come to her birthday party . .. now why would she want me to come if he is going to be there . . . it would only cause trouble and be really awkward on top of that
2006-12-15 05:19:02 · 6 answers · asked by osb2904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like she realizes she may have made a mistake and is looking for help getting out of it. Or, if she is just really an evil person, she may just be trying to rub it in your face for whatever reason. Maybe she is just trying to have her cake and eat it too. Who knows what her reasoning is, best thing I can tell you is.....TALK TO HER. Find out why she won't stop leaving you messages. It may be the easy way to get her to stop. Simply tell her that as long as she is with this person you wish to have no contact with her. Avoiding the situation has obviously gotten you no where.
2006-12-15 05:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is playing games with you. She wants to have her cake and eat it too! Wants to go out with others but have you in sight just in case she changes her mind or things don't work out with other guys out there. She is not being very fair to you, only thinking selfishly.
On her emails/texts she is not saying she wants to get back or misses you...it's just her way of keeping you hoping for things to change. She probably also loved the attention you were giving her when you were trying to get back with her.
The situation does not seem fair to you in any way and you are doing the right thing by keeping your distance.
2006-12-15 13:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by mbon:) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she either she wants you back . . or she just wants you to want her. If she wants u back, i think she is trying to get a feel on you thoughts about it . . . It is possible to be friends w/ ex's but in your situation, she should know it can't be for you. Ok, the other now . . . some girls need to be wanted . . she sounds like one of those girls (i.e. doesn't want to be alone). She wants you to want her . . . makes her feel good about herself. Maybe too she is hoping that you can be her backup if this guy doesn't work out. No one can say for sure what she is thinking . . but these are my guesses. Good luck.
2006-12-15 13:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_carmel_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is trying to feel you out - as far as where you stand with her. Possibly looking for your approval as far as her relationship is going with this other guy. If I were you - go to the birthday party with some hot woman on your arm and see how she reacts. Sounds like I am trying to start a war but seriously - what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Let's see how strong of a woman she really is and how much of a gentleman you can be. Handle yours!
2006-12-15 13:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by sugar_pink_candy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a simple one to me. Sounds like this guy wants to get serious and she is still wants to be with you but can't think of a good reason to break it of with her current. So she is using you to solve that problem. Good luck.
2006-12-15 13:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by postmasterfsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she regrets breaking up with you+wants to get back with you. Its up to you if you decide to make contact with her again, as it doesn't look like she realizes that you don't want any contact with her.
2006-12-15 13:25:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋