Curious to see how many people out there think flirting on the web is cheating if in a relation?

Question

You know, if you are living with someone but still talking to the opposite sex and flirting with them online, how many would consider that cheating and END the relationship?

Answer 1

Been with my b/f almost a year now. I have that problem with him. He seems to think that nothing is wrong with that and in fact, tries to turn it around and say it's my fault that he does it, and/or denies that he is doing it. I have put up with it a long time now trying to believe his "it's not me, or I promise to never do it agains" but I think a year of trying to believe he'll change is enough. I'd be curious to see how many agree with me?

Point is this: if you are supposedly in a committed relationship, you shouldn't be flirting with, or even wanting to flirt with, anyone else...that's what committed means! There are NO excuses because a COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP has good times and bad times and should be able to survive through both! If only one person realizes that, it's not a relationship!

Hope this helped some.

Answer 2

I've been taken to the mat on this before.
I don't think flirting on line is cheating.
Why would flirting on-line be viewed any different than flirting in person. Almost everyone flirts in real life, some may flirt a little more discreetly than others, but flirting is flirting and it's just that nothing more.

Answer 3

Its not cheating, but there are lines that can NEVER be crossed! The flirtings fine, but once you say lets hook up, we should meet, oh i dont think we'll be together much longer so its ok, or i am breaking up with him/her soon (and really arent)! Things like these are crossing the lines in a relationship and need to be adressed right away. Would you really want to be with some who lies to people online, and prolly to you then???? If that were to happen, you need to ask yourself do I want to be with someone who does this, do I deserve better, and so on???? I think people get the point here. (This is just my opinion & point of veiw)

Answer 4

Yes I consider it cheating. My husband is doing it right now and has been doing throughout our entire relationship. I just found out recently when I discovered his my space. He's not acting very married let me tell ya. Anyways, im gonna get a divorce and move on. Flirting is flirting whether or not the person is standing in front of you or not. QUIT!!

Answer 5

I have always wondered how someone could consider a "virtual" relationship cheating since most of the time the participants never even actually physically see one another. So... I asked my wife her opinion. Her opinion is that it is not about physical involvement but about an emotional connection outside of the relationship, and yes, she would consider it to be cheating.

Answer 6

I Do not think that it is full on cheating but I do not think if you are in a committed relationship it is something you should be doing. Would I end a relationship over it? No. But I would be hurt and I would want it to stop. Yes!

Answer 7

if its flirting with someone in real life at a bar, then the most that can happen is a night of cheap meaningless sex, driven only by physical attraction. BUT if theres flirting going on over the internet, words have to be used to a greater degree, giving more attention to eachothers moods, and carefully choosing words. And if theres a webcam, then you can show them your naked body, which is cheating anyway.

IF you flirted with a guy at a bar, that you didnt know... then went with him that night, and had attraction driven sex, then the next day left and didnt see him again. this is cheating, BUT its much less harmful to the integrity of your feelings to your parter who you are cheating on THAN, if you continuously flirt with someone on your yahoo IM or msn messanger list for example, because although theres no physical touch or sex... theres something much more dangerous, which is called emotional attachment, and IF you are attracted enough to them to want to flirt, then you will slowly but surely become emotionally attached to them, and eventually you might even fall in love with them, which is the most dangerous thing that can happen.

with someone in a bar, you dont get a chance to properly know them, ie you certainly will not fall in love, BUT if its someone online, not only will there be physical attraction, but there will also be a chance to get to know them WELL... and this is very dangerous

im sorry but i do think its cheating in this sense, and in a very dangerous way indeed.

BUT, if its a one off in a public chatroom, then theres no harm, and well, its a little bit of innocent fun, as theres no chance for sex at the end it all!.

theres my thoughts, i hope it helped, GREAT question btw.

Answer 8

Heck yea thats cheating! I got caught doing that right before me and my b/f started going out and he said, "How could I trust you if you go and flirt with guys that you dont even know or ever even seen before?" Honestly that is not being committed! If you are in a relationship then you should flirt with your b/f or g/f and only your b/f or g/f!

Answer 9

Flirting, whether in person or on the web, and not being honest with your partner, is cheating. You can justify it, but it is cheating and I wouldn't put up with it. If they prefer chatting with someone on line to talking with me in the same room, then let them chat away and I'll find someone who satisfies me.

Answer 10

I do consider that cheating and would end the relationship coz i dont wanna be with such a jerk for the rest of my life.I would be with someone who would preserve that energy to flirt with me.