My boyfriend doesn't want to be badgered about cohabitating or marriage. So he just wants to see me on the weekend. This is after a year of him staying at my place. He loves me and doesn't want to break up. He just doesn't want things to go so fast. So, do we quit having sex. Or does it matter? I mean, I don't want him to have his cake and eat it too.
2006-12-15 05:08:22 · 15 answers · asked by cheerstoyou 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its a great question, I think that a long term relationship has to have all of these elements, Friendship, Trust, Shared Dreams, Laughter, Mystic appeal, Romance and Sex. And in that order. Do a mental tally and determine how many of these things that you have. If he was just making booty calls on the weekends, than I would have told what every female needs to know, A GUY WILL ALWAYS TRY TO PUT A WOMAN INTO A POSITION WHERE HE GETS THE SEX WHITHOUT ANY EMOTIONAL INVESTMENT. Sorry guys, Bob
2006-12-15 05:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by Bob B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The law of diminishing marginal utility states that eventually the costs will outweigh the benefits when too much of something is executed. Sure the first slice of pizza tastes great, but how about the 5th, 6th, or 7th? Watching Scarface was incredible when you saw it the first time but how about the 50th time? This law can be applied in relationships, including the one you are in right now. Sure things were great a year ago but once you hang out with the same person day in and day out, you eventually lose interest in one another. It is the sad truth my friend. Sex is important in a relationship but that can also have negative effects after doing it too much. One day I am sure your boyfriend rolled over in bed and realized "Hey, I just have some regular old ritz crackers". So my advice to you is to respect his opinion on just coming over on the weekend. Do not have sex with him, it is then you will realize what he means to you now and where the two of you should stand in the future. "If it is true love, let it go, and if it comes back... it was truely meant to be"
2006-12-15 05:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jason K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess the question to it is, why bother having cake if you can't eat it? Someone is trying to control someone in this cool down, guys think with the other head, and removing sex would ultimately steer him away, unless you and he are willing to wait it out, if sex isn't important, then it'll last, if it is for either of you, talk to him, better yet, just let things happen on their own.
2006-12-15 05:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by xeon_mmx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying at your place? He helped out right? If so maybe he's just cooling off...but if he wasn't helping out financially, he was probably using you all along. Sorry! Sounds like you sort of answered your own question If you are thinking of stopping the sex, then that is the way you morally believe.
2006-12-15 05:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
rigidity has were given to be between the most problem-free sex killers. Is there a way of sorting out what the source of the rigidity is (maximum in all possibility his pastime) and searching a thanks to diminish the rigidity aspect? even if it truly is his pastime perhaps giving severe idea to replacing his line of labor? it truly isn't any longer worth having a job if it truly is going to kill his love existence or maybe himself down the line. rigidity reduces your immune platforms and ought to reason heart attacks and so on.. perhaps both of you are able to connect a gymnasium at the same time - that would help you do something with one yet another, decrease the rigidity at the same time and with any luck get issues lower back on target... *edited to operate I purely reported the further information putting ahead it replaced into his pastime.
2016-11-26 21:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by wygant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no written rules to follow...going too fast? well, after 1 year it is really not that fast for two adults to realize that they want to be together. My advice is do what you feel, but to me sex doesnt come that good when feelings are in doubt, maybe you just need to pause and ponder the situation but dont use sex as an exchange good to obtain his commitment.
2006-12-15 05:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by arwen78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you ultimately get what you need/want from him? If not, don't invest yourself in a sexual relationship with him. Free yourself to find it with someone who will give you the whole enchilada. The sexual energy you give to him will not be available for somebody else if you continue sleeping with him and you are frustrated about other aspects of the relationship.
2006-12-15 05:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a jerk. He just wants you for sex. He might even be cheating on you or you might be the other woman. Look into that.
2006-12-15 05:13:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you put your sex life on hold? to punish him because he doesn't want to get married or move in with you? do you love him? if you love him, maintain your relationship. if you don't, move on. no point in dragging this out if it's dying.
2006-12-15 05:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does not want marriage but he wants sex...intersting..
depends on what u want..
if u wnat just sex...keep on going..what the hell..
but if u want to be in a relation for the life time..
dump him..he is using u for sex only
2006-12-15 05:11:14 · answer #10 · answered by Inquistive_man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋