I had a boyfriend for 6 months, and when we broke up we would still talk on the phone, but it wasnt like it used to be. Then one day he said he had to go do something and he told me to talk to his brother for a while until he got back... so I did. We talked for hours and my ex came back but he didnt ask his brother for the phone so he could talk to me again. So me and my ex's brother now talk every night for hours, I still have feelings for my ex-boyfriend and two days ago he asked me if I wanted to go back with him. I wanted to tell him yes but I think I'm feeling something for his brother TOO!!! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!
2006-12-15 04:55:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In matters of the heart its hard to say whats the right thing. Sometimes our hearts rule our heads.
What seems the best thing to do right now is give both of them a walk. If you think you have feelings for your x but did not get back with him because of his brother it means the feelings for your x are not strong enough to have a concrete relationship. The fact that he asked you to come back means he's not over you, he's sure to resent you getting involved with his brother.
Chances are, if you get involved with any of these guys you will have to intercat with the other on a fairly regular basis, will you be able to deal with those feelings for the other person?Imagine the tension at family dinners etc. Imagine how you will feel if you get involved with the other brother and it stills doesn't work out.
Don't be the reason these two may end up hating each other.
My advice is walk away from both guys.Stop talking to them so much.Use that time to Interact with other people but don't rush into a relationship with anyone, give yourself time to get over your boyfriend, then move on the feelings for the brother may just be you on the rebound while they may be real. Love has a funny way of working itself out.
AN UNWRITTEN RULE OF DATING IS ONCE YOU DATE OR DATED SOMEONE, THEIR SIBLINGS ARE OFF LIMIT.
2006-12-15 05:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by ayanagin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a BIG mistake, I don't think that you should be with Ur ex's brother because that will be very awkward going to family functions, because of the hostility that will be in the air and if it gets out, you will look like something you are not.
The same thing happened to me, but slightly different: My best friend hooked me up with her boyfriends best friend but we never met we would just talk on the phone, we were talking for months and finally the day of my B-day party I was suppose to meet him. That day I came and when we met there was no connection there, so later on that night I met this amazing guy and we hit it off instantly...come to find out they were brothers. Well we started dating and my ex made my life miserable he threw it in my face every chance he got and constantly told his brother that he shouldn't trust me, that I'm a 'this' and a 'that' ultimately he drove us apart and I was made to look like a slut, when I am clearly not, just be careful because dating to brothers spell trouble. If you don't want to be with your ex anymore leave them both alone because there is 2 thing you just don't do as a woman: date brothers or best friends! Good luck to you, I hope you figure it out!
2006-12-15 13:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by moks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do exactly what you want to do in the moment. You are way too young to worry about long-term boyfriends. Of course, if you start seeing the brother, feelings will be hurt. Including yours. But hey, you need experience. This is how you learn what you want from your social and romantic lives.
2006-12-15 13:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by Vanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tricky...Which boy is closer to your age? Your ex or his brother? Also, which makes you laugh more, feel safe? You should think carefully of these traits.
Maybe even make a list of what you like/dislike about each boy, and hopefully the list will help you decide.
2006-12-15 13:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really in your heart want to go back with the original go ahead but dating the brother will be a incredible mistake. brothers always want their brothers girl but once they get her you will be more like a trophy than a significant other.
2006-12-15 13:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by postmasterfsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut the strings gf NOTHING good can become of this. I've tried it before and it only leads to more trouble than what it is worth. You can talk to them all you want, but don't get involved with either of them. It sounds like they are trying to play you, and they will if you let them. Move on and save yourself the heartache.
2006-12-15 13:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by night worker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make up your mind. Probably with ex thinks you want something w his brother thats why he doesnt call you.
2006-12-15 13:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by kathernva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeeeez, girl
you are one confused, chica :)))))))
let the brothers be, and find somebody else.
because, no matter what, if you date the brother of your ex... there always be bad blood between them, as long as you are in a relationship with the brother.
DO you really want' to hurt them????
2006-12-15 13:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh girl this is hard...you need to make sure you still feel for your boyfriend/exboyfriend. you need to make sure his brother isnt just a rebound because you were feeling lonely. its difficult, but you need to find this out by digging in your heart. you need to be true to it, and i dont think anything anyone says can help really, so good luck. remember, if you go for the brother, make sure your boyfriend understands, but i think you should maybe just stick to your boyfriend. good luck!
2006-12-15 12:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by one&only<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to make a descision. Write the pros and cons on each brother and then compare. Or dump them both and move on.
2006-12-15 12:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by JAD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋