Why do people describe themselves as being one thing and in reality they are something else......?
2006-12-15 04:47:50 · 22 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe what they really are frightens others.
2006-12-15 04:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, people probably are the person they want to believe they are. Let's not forget that we all have our own realities and we project them onto others.
For instance, take a person who is jolly, likes to joke and have a good laugh and have them spend enough time with someone who is needy, not very confident and a bit dull. The person who is positive will eventually feel some of the energy being pulled out of them and may even become angry or confused and "behave in a manner not like themselves".
People are dual natured and we have a side that we enjoy and we would like to be around if that side existed as another person then there is the other side that we tend not to show (if we're healthy) but may come to the fore if the right person comes along and "pushes those buttons".
It isn't that a person sets out to deceive, it is more a case of that part of themselves being drawn out sometimes by others and sometimes by circumstances.
WE also play a role in so far as if there is an attraction to the person, we may see only what we want to see and will ignore any warning signs that may come up if we weren't attracted to them.
2006-12-15 05:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people perceive themselves one way and come across another.. It is very common for someone who thinks they are very friendly to get very shy around new people. People who think they are so giving and are really selfish.
What they see of themselves is their perception, from an ego point of view.. which usually is not who they really are, but who they want to be... People struggle with their inner self to be everything to everybody. They want approval they want acceptance and will do almost anything to get it. Thus falling short sometimes and coming across as a total stranger ... a side of them you didn't know. Then you are truly disappointed in them,.... It is a vicious circle in life to gain acceptance and we are constantly being put to the test.. because we want everyone to like us all the time. Impossible and improbable....
2006-12-15 04:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's some psychology behind this, can't remember it exactly, it's something along the lines of you see yourself as one thing, others see you another way and the reality is somewhere nicely in the middle.
Not sure I've explained that well, but it was a good effort considering how hungover I am!
2006-12-15 04:51:08 · answer #4 · answered by misseliggett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to answer that nobody is who they say they are are they,
i just spent 3 months chatting on line to a guy claiming to be an American from Texas working in Nigeria turns out he a Nigerian looking for an easy ticket to the UK so he can live a nice life.
he saw me as a bank role and easy target but boy was he wrong so I'm not the women he thought I was
Gullible stupid and desperate for love that I'd be stupid too send this guy some cash
so people are never what they seem especially on line
2006-12-15 05:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by AARONLEE AND SASHA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People always feel the need to impress others and sometimes that may come out in not letting on who they really are.
It could also be that they truly don't like who they are as a person so they pretend to be someone they aren't.
2006-12-15 04:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by TTC Cycle#20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THere you have posed an age-old question.
To know oneself is a thing worth aiming for. It helps if you have a friend who is sufficiently close that you can let them tell you when you are blowing it, without falling out.
Shakespeare put it well:
Top thine own self be true and thou canst not then be false to any man
2006-12-15 04:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by alan h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people describe themselves as the person they wanna be and not the person they are becuz they dont lyk who they are...i mean if i hated the way i was and wanted to be something else i would describe myself as what i wanted to be....
2006-12-15 05:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are sacred to show their true selves because they don't want to be rejected so they mould themselves to fit in with others. Its human nature to try and fit in unless you want to be a loner all your life.
Either that or they are not nice people and just want to manipulate others into doing what they want. Be wary!!
2006-12-15 07:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they want to be something else or they want you to think they are something else so they have a chance of getting off with you.
2006-12-15 04:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they tell you what they think you WANT to hear.
Everyone has their own ideal self image...things about themselves they want to perfect. When you think you're imperfect, you think other people will notice too.
I think generally when people lie, it's a "fear of rejection" type of thing.
2006-12-15 04:53:05 · answer #11 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋