I just last my grandma on thanksgiving morning.
ANd now I feel lost without my grandma here with me.
2006-12-15 04:43:58 · 25 answers · asked by Samantha t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am sorry, but I cannot help you. I have never lost anyone close to me yet (thank God). But I am sorry for your loss. I am sure tha there will be bad days along with good ones, and eventually the pain will go away.
2006-12-15 04:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Samantha I am sorry to hear of your loss. You will grieve the loss of your grandma and go threw the stages that are normal for us all to have at a time like this. Some of the feelings you may experience are anger, denial, sorrow, depression and acceptance. A great way to help yourself is to go and pay respect to your grandma by visiting her gravesite (if she was buried) and talk with her like she was there. This sounds kind of strange but it does help make you feel better and if there is an afterlife when we leave it she will be aware of how you are feeling and be proud of you for remembering her so fondly. If she was cremated then you can honour her wishes and do with her ashes what she asked. But realize also that none of us live forever and that you grandma would be upset if she felt that you were not doing your best and falling behind in your life by her loss. Do what you enjoy and try and to think of your grandma and all the fond memories you shared with her when having fun. Soon enough live will return to normal but this Christmas may be hard if you are used to sharing it with her, but as the years go on it will become easier. Be grateful that you were able to share some of your life with her and when remembering her do so proudly. Anybody would be proud to have you as a granddaughter as you sound very thoughtful. Good luck to you.
2006-12-15 04:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my favorite aunts in the world died last Friday night, a week after Thanksgiving. I went and visited her on Thanksgiving. She had cancer and had lost alot of weight. I am so glad I got to see her, but I can't wrap my head around the whole aspect of death. All I can say is hang close to your family, and pray or go to church. I don't go to church, and I'm not religious, but I am SPIRITUAL. I think there is a difference. I just know that she's not is pain or suffereing anymore and I remember her the great way she was. That helps me a lot!
2006-12-15 05:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by yankeeadrienne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my grandfather when i was 10. It was so hard for me to accept I would never see him again. I grief and still a year later I swore i see him in the streets, but i know that was not possible, I never mention it to no one. Time went on and soon it was not so hard, I lost track of time. Today i still get a knot
in my throat, but do not even remember what he looked like.
Some people heal faster then others. Don't let anyone rush you.
2006-12-15 05:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by themeathanger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing someone to death is hard and when these things happen I look to the bible and I find a great deal of comfort. One scripture that comes to mind is found in Revelation 21:4 and it says And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. the former things have passed away. This hope assures us that in the near future God will do away with death and pain and we will live a peaceful life. The way that was first intended. I'm sorry for your lose and I hope that this helps.
2006-12-15 04:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hadn't lost anyone in a long time, then in February I lost a great man-my grandfather. The only advice that I can give you is to give yourself time. Cry when you need to and call a friend to listen to you when you need it. After some time the pain will not be as tremendous and you will be able to live and move on.
PS, if you are Christian, prayer definately helps.
2006-12-15 05:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by moni6674 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM SO SORRY ABOUT YOUR LOSS! I KNOW HOW HARD IT IS. I RECENTLY LOST MY GRANDPA. I WAS RAISED BY MY GRANDPARENTS SINSE I WAS 6 MONTHS OLD! THEY WERE LIKE MY PARENTS. I COULDN'T BELIVE FOR A LONG TIME THAT HE WAS GONE. BUT PEOPLE SAY THAT TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS. THEY ARE RIGHT. THE PAIN GETS BETTER WITH TIME. IT HURTS A LOT!!! VERY VERY MUCH! BUT TRY TO REMEMBER THE GOOD MOMENTS THAT YOU HAD TOGETHER WITH YOUR GRANDMA! REMEMBER HER AT HER BEST, WHEN SHE WAS THE HEALTHIEST AND THE HAPPIEST. THE PAIN WILL GO AWAY, AND THE MEMORY OF YOUR GRANDMA WILL STAY IN YOUR HEART! BE HAPPY THAT YOU HAD HER IN YOUR LIFE, THAT SHE TOUCHED YOUR HEART WITH HER LOVE AND HER WORDS OF WISDOM!AS LONG AS THE MEMORY OF HER LIVES IN YOU, SHE WILL ALSO LIVE!
2006-12-15 05:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my grandfather a little over 3 months ago, and it's still very painful. We were very close - he was like my second Dad. I have good days and bad days. Night-time is the worst because I have time to think about things. I absolutely believe that time is the only thing that heals hurts.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
2006-12-15 05:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by KmmK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know know you think you will nevr get over it, but It takes time,you do have to go on, and just try to think of her being in a better place. I know its hard because i lost my Mom two years ago and we were best friends, I still think about her alot and miss her, but believe me it does get easier.Hopefully you have someone you can lean on when you get down and out.Cry as much as you want it helps too. Im so sorry for you loss. Just be strong.
2006-12-15 04:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by cinpooh44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all . I am sorry about your grandma.
But life is for the living. I am sure your grandma feels your love, but
Your grandma would not want you to be sad. She would want you to be happy. and to move forward with your life.
Take nice memories of her. and use them in your life. and her life will continue through you.
2006-12-15 04:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋