A friend of mine is 24, and recently a good looking, successful, genuine, rich 43-year-old guy asked her out. She finds herself attracted to him, which is weird b/c she has a boyfriend (who she's been dating for a year and a half.) She told this guy that she'll think about his offer.
Since she's starting to have feelings for this guy, do you think she should go out with him, or is the age difference (and the fact that she has a man) too great?
2006-12-15 04:42:19 · 24 answers · asked by xxtra chocolate 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well on this one I have two things to say age is nothing but a number. My sister is 27 and very happy in her marriage of 3 years to a man who is 45 years old. The two of them are wonderful together and my sister is not expecting baby number 2 in 5 months with the man.
Number 2 I know you are concerned about your friend but at 24 she is old enough to make her own choice. Just because you think she might be happy in the relationship she is in does not mean she is. There has to be a lack of something deep down inside if she even found this guy remotely interesting and said Maybe. People who are happy with their relationships would of said " NO" right off the bat.
My advice is 1 for you to not get in the middle of who she dates because that can interfer with your friendship.
and two for her to be honest with herself and her feelings, because if she is considering going on a date with another man then there is problems in her current relationship somewhere.
2006-12-15 04:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend best be careful. The age difference is so great (plus he is rich and good looking) that in the long term they will have problems.
The guy comes from a different era and will have problems relating to your friend. Initially things will be fine, but if the relationship grows your friend will find that she will feel uncomfortable interacting with people in their middle 40's and early 50's (which his friends will be), and worse she will be looked at as a trophy by his friends and people on the outside.
So while she may want to entertain the idea of a dinner with no strings attached, she may find herself losing a caring guy (the current boyfriend), and have to started all over again with someone else in the near future.
2006-12-15 04:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by wknightf3 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She isn't the first 24 year old who gets all starry-eyed over a wealthy, sophisticated man almost twice her age, who has taken an interest in her. She wants the goodies he can afford to give her, and the places he can afford to take her, and he gets the ego boost of being able to manipulate a "pretty young thing" she is, in fact, just another one of the toys he can afford for his amusement. The intesting thing is, though, how come this wealthy, successful 43 year old man hasn't got a woman his own age in tow - either a love interest, or even a wife? My bet is that he has, and if not, there's a reeeeeal good reason for it.
2006-12-15 04:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Initially I would've said go for it because it's her life and she can do whatever she wants. But after reading all of it I say, "NO"!!!!! It doesn't matter if this man has money or not nor does his age matter. The thing that matters of which she should realize is HER BOYFRIEND'S FEELINGS! If she's been with her boyfriend for as long as you say she has she should consider how he would feel if he knew what she was up to. Better yet have her ask herself this question, how would I feel if I found out my boyfriend was doing the same thing to me with a rich and attractive older woman? That should get her to pay attention and quick if she genuinely loves herself and her man.
2006-12-15 04:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by Say Strore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference is not an issue...I dated a 41 year old man when I was 23. The problem is that she has a boyfriend. If she is really into this older guy then she needs to be honest with her boyfriend and break up with him instead of cheating on him.
2006-12-15 04:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends... your friend seems to have feelings for the older guy, and that is something positive. Now you have to think about his motives... sex only or something else???
Anyway, regardless of what your friend decides to do, she should try to re-evaluate her relationship with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend should know if there's some problem in their relationship or not. It is the fair thing to do. As for the age difference, that would be fine; it is not like she is 16 and he is 26 or something like that. She is a little over college age, and hopefully, mature enough not to put herself in a bad situation. And thank you, for being a good friend and taking care of your friend!
2006-12-15 04:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by o302 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably won't work...43 and 24 are going to be too different. Different desires, passions, way they live, expectations. I would stick within a 10 year window at the most! Plus he'll be in his 60's when she hits her 40's! EW!
2006-12-15 04:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by Trevor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can't help which way your heart drags you so, if she finds that she would rather get to know the older man then there is absolutely nothing wrong with that-- if he's genuine and isn't trying to be scandolous then i don't think there should be a problem... as long as she knows for sure what she's doing and has weighed all the options-- it would be terrible if she goes for the older man only to realize she was too much in love with her current boyfriend
2006-12-15 04:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he is to old.. age doesnt matter much but when it almost doubles the age of the youngest peron there is a problem... it has to be something wrong with this supposedly good looking rich person for him to still be alone and on top of that asking someone so young out
2006-12-15 04:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by bdbdub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds complicated.
As long as both parties are legal and the age difference isn't more than 20 years, it should be fine.
Being that she has a man, that'd be kind of messed up of her to cheat on him with this new guy.
2006-12-15 04:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋