I have been in a custody battle for over a year and a half. My daughter lives with her father, which is a very unsafe living situation. He is an alcoholic of the worst degree. He is in Ohio and I am in Missouri. I have done everything right here, like buying a house and I am getting married to the greatest man ever. He doesn't work, he drinks in front of her, (I know how scary this is!) and he has a bed IN HER ROOM. Sometimes h lets her sleep with him in his bed. (He gets roaming hands, in his sleep, when he has been drinking.) I want nothing more than to show her this is NOT the way to live and that drinking is not a permanent fixture in someone's home. I have been to the court for times, (since the time they gave him custody,) and I have been forced to sit in the waiting room while the lawyers go in and hash it out. So far nothing good. I am ready to expose this story on the news or any place that will listen. Should I or should I just sit peacefully while my daughter is left there?
2006-12-15 04:40:47 · 5 answers · asked by Cutelilminxy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am completely heartbroken while this continues to go on. I wish to God that she finds her way to my home, soon. I fear what really might be happening to her. While he was drinking he actually raped me, and looked down at me while I was crying and said, "Poor baby, did I rape you?"
2006-12-15 04:43:38 · update #1
I have not personally reported him to Child and Family Services, but the CASA case worker did. She is apalled that he lets a seven year old girl sleep with him. It is sick!
2006-12-15 04:55:35 · update #2
Edna, I have been away from this man for over 4 years, and have done nothing to settle this time. I am with a wonderful man who treats me like gold. After him, I decided to not just go for the next thing. Before my current boyfriend, now fiancee, I was single for over a year, as I was waiting for someone like I have now. So to be rude and say something like that is completely uncalled for. I made my mistakes and I still have the scars to prove it.... and you, I assume, have never made a mistake?
2006-12-15 05:17:51 · update #3
Custody was granted to him in the state of Ohio. I was going to move to Missouri when the Sherriff came and took my daughter from my arms. It seems the court had an ex parte hearing without my knowledge and he was granted temporary custody... after that, the court made me into someone I wasn't and never gave me a chance to explain who I really was. And now I cant even seem to get into the court room again.
2006-12-15 05:22:07 · update #4
Yes, the court stated to him, in order for him to be granted custody he was to do four things... they are, keep a job, (which he has only had one for approx. 4 months in a year and a half,) he was to QUIT drinking, (and he hasn't as my daughter tells me what she sees,) to complete alcohol counsiling, (which he was kicked out of for non compliance,) and to live with his mother, (well, isn't this the court admitting there was a problem with him... this is the ONLY thing he has done.)
2006-12-15 05:25:31 · update #5
where did you live when he was granted custody? He is indeed placing her in danger. Do your custody papers say anything about drinking while the child is yours/his custody? You need to document every detail and record your phone conversations with your daughter. If the custody decision was made where you now reside.. then you have a better chance..Do you have regular visitation with her if so, do you have to travel to Ohio to see her? You need to get a good lawyer .. document & photograph everything you can.. once you have your ducks in a row file for an emergency protective order. You also may want to look into having her evaluated by a child mental health specialist as the report will hold up in court. Also an exam from a Dr.. You will be in for a long battle..
2006-12-15 05:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by fandigirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can pick em!
talk with her about what she wants done and how did he get custody in the first place. if there is a real problem call family services or info line. last but not least make sure you can prove what ever you tell child services.
2006-12-15 13:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Eda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you honey. I would advise maybe getting a different lawyer better suited to this kind of case. I would also report it to the social workers as fast as I could. I know that's not much help. God speed on her return.
2006-12-15 14:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you reported him to children and family services in Ohio? They can remove her from his home.
2006-12-15 12:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by kadel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your dilemma, pray about it
2006-12-15 12:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋