like i hade 12 boyfriends and they all cheeted on me and i did every thing to pleas them.and i mean evert thing.from sex positions and cooking. what should i do?
2006-12-15 04:30:25 · 17 answers · asked by bonbon452002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and i don't give them all the power and i love myself too
2006-12-15 04:46:00 · update #1
no one is destine to be alone. they choose to be. you said that you have had 12 bf. maybe you are looking in the wrong places. Maybe the guys that you had were not for you maybe you are looking to eagerly be patient God Will send you your prince charming. I'm still waiting for my sleeping beauty
Good Luck
and God Bless
2006-12-15 04:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too insecure. You're not gonna make a man love you with sex positions and cooking. Don't just give it up because you want to keep a boyfriend! He needs to earn that kind of thing. Maybe you should be single for a while and get yourselff together before you go out looking for a man. A guy will not complete you. You have to love yoursel first. And no, I don't think you're destined to be alone, but you might have a few things to learn about yourself before getting into another relationship. What is it about you that makes guys want to cheat on you? What did these 12 guys have in common? Find out so you don't end up with another one.
2006-12-15 04:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by Bebe Bluff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you give the more people want from you. You sound generous, which is a bonus. Maybe you need to take some time before starting to give, make sure he's going to appreciate, otherwise you're just exerting yourself for no good reason.
Also, 12 boyfriends sounds a lot. How long between each relationship? Too many partners too soon wreck one's reputation.
Good luck.
2006-12-15 04:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by sapfarah.geo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should concentrate on pleasing yourself first. Sometimes, even when we're in relationships, we're still lonely. Having a boyfriend won't make that better. A boyfriend can't cure loneliness. Sometimes they can even make it worse. Only you can fix yourself enough so that you're not lonely anymore.
You need to learn to look after yourself first. Make yourself happy. Find peace within before you go looking for it without. Maybe you sub-consciously pick the guys who will cheat on you and hurt you because you think that's what you deserve. In a relationship, you will only be treated the way you expect to be treated. If you believe that you deserve better, then you will get better.
Good luck!
2006-12-15 04:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop and think what are you attracted to what did all 12 relationships have in common? where did you meet then? what did they do for a living? what were there past relationships like? And the first thing in life you can go around in life trying to please everyone! you will just end you in the same place were you are now! If you try so hard trying to make one person happy they tend to get greedy and do stuff behind your back! Be-careful and start to care for you self and you find that people will care for you in return! hope this helped you out.
2006-12-15 04:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by kim806 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your lifestyle. From the looks of your picture I'd say you like the same sex. My brother is gay. I stay at his house occasionally as I'm going through a divorce from my wife having another affair. I've seen him and his friends have more partners than I ever thought about having. It seems to be that lifestyle is not one for monogamy.
My problem, that I have just come to realize is that I have high expectations for women I date, and only want to date 10's. The more attractive a person is, the more times a day they get hit on. If you are not showing the person you are involved with, the attention they need and the person you are involved with has a lack of self control, then guess what? They will act on these advances.
You can have the best sex in the world and they could see something else they like, then act on thier feelings. I have had with my new girlfriend, the best sex I've had in 15 years. She has told me it was the best she's had in 11 years as she was going through a divorce as well. She's so sexy, the first night we were together, when she stripped down, my ____ went from hard as a rock, to limp noodle. Why? Because subconcously I thought to myself, there is no way I'm going to be able to please her. She was that incredible. But after she came all over my face I was ready to go. 8 months into it, she tells me she just wants to be friends. What caused it? I changed jobs and was not available enough for her. I guess she needed sex more than 5 times a week. I would have given her that 20 times a week, but the hours I work, wouldn't allow it.
So here's the thing! Don't let them know how you feel, emotionally. Make them be the one's chasing you. You're probably like me in nature (I want to let my partner know how I feel about them, because when they let me know how they feel about me it makes me feel better about myself) I only want them to feel as good about thierself as they make me feel about me! IT DOES NOT WORK THAT WAY! I've learned the hard way. Sometimes you have to be an ***! You have to make them think you can always get better. They are the one's that have to please you!
As much as I hate it. You have to play the game!
2006-12-15 04:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by 35 goodlookinmalefrombalt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt get them coz they were not meant be.They were not right for you.You should not lose hope.You should be glad that you are single and learn to make the best use of ''me time''.Enjoy your liberty to the fullest.Love yourself.Engage yourself in all those activties that fascinate you that will make you forget about love hunting and dating.You will find love when you least expect it.You have to wait for the right guy to come along coz the best things in life are worth waiting for.Good Luck!
2006-12-15 04:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop trying to please them and just be yourself. I have a friend who is having this same problem. You just need to be yourself and if they don't like you the way you are then they aren't right for you anyway. Try to find someone honest who shares the same likes and dislikes as you do. This may take a while but it will be worth the wait if the right one does come along. JUST DONT LET THEM CHANGE YOU! YOU'RE GREAT THE WAY YOU ARE!
2006-12-15 04:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make yourself happy. Only then will you be in a position where you can offer love to someone else...it will also give you better self esteem and some standards so you don't fall for the bull s hit that these players you date feed you
2006-12-15 04:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by violet1656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be less open to them. Stop putting the guy first. Tease him, don't put out. Yes I know you need sex sometimes, but use self cotrol and say, "no". and maybe go for a guy, who you know, after all he is suppose to be your best friend. Every great relationship needs it.
-Don't be always running to him.
-Don't be scared to make the first move, but be sure he wants the same thing too.
-Make sure your safe with who you are.
-Be open to waiting.
2006-12-15 04:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by Zig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋