After 3 years of being interested in each other, we finally got together. It's been a little over a year. At first we only seen each other once a week and communicated primarily via e-mailing. Then he slowly "moved in" but still maintained his own residence 15 miles away. After a couple of months of his staying here 6 days a week, I told him to move in. His excuse: not ready for a long term, possible marriage-turned relationship. Then, I finally told him to chip in for at least groceries or go home. After only a month of chipping in for groceries, he has decided that he isn't in love with me and is going to start staying at his place and just see me on the weekends. He says he loves me but is not in love with me. He doesn't want to break up or see other people, either. He is not ready and doesn't know if he'll ever be ready for a long term relationship. We won't be carpooling to work anymore either which helped. Basically, we are at square 1 again. I love him....do I put up or end it?
2006-12-15 04:28:01 · 13 answers · asked by whoanelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
End it, it may be a wake up call and force hime to look at the relationship and what he is losing. He thinks you will be there for him forever the way it is now. If you dump him and cut him off then he will have to reevaluate what he is doing. It will either A. let him know he's really in love with you and start acting the right way, or B. You will know he really doesn't love you and you can start moving on without him.
2006-12-15 04:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by bkweeks2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While he may not be playing you it sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. At the very least he is being honest with you that he is not ready for marriage.
Your relationship is rapidly becoming only a friendship.
You want one thing...he wants another.
While he may love you in his own way there is no way he is ready to make it permanent.
He is in it for the fun you want some commitment.
All his real interest in you is sexual. If you can't bring yourself to end it just stop the sex and I think it will resolve itself. Begin seeing other guys because there is a good chance he is seeing other girls.
2006-12-15 04:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 00:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances r... He's terrified at the idea of marriage. If u don't plan on it any time soon, or even have to lie... Reassure him that's not the intention. He's obviously stepping outside of his comfort zone, and men don't respond well to that. Give it time, and make him feel comfortable with u all over again. Don't let him get too comfortable tho, this changes everything. If he loves u enuff to stay around, chances r... he IS in love with u, but isn't ready to choke up his pride. Men tend to shelter themselves from pain, insecurity, and pressure. Withdrawal is the first sign. Bear with it, and give him space.
2006-12-15 04:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by bbygirl529 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you know the answer deep inside. There's no way you can or you should put up with his behavior. You've done all you can from your side looks like. It seems like a matter of semantics here - loving versus in love with.
You definitely deserve better. He hasn't gone out and tried to build another relationship because he deep inside believes you'll continue to give him what he wants. And by putting up with him, he's not going to get any better.
For sure, you don't want to be taken for granted. And for sure, you deserve better. So darling, move on. With your positive attitude and patience, you'll find more loving, caring, and responsible men in your life :-)
2006-12-15 05:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Providing you're looking for a long term commitment, I suggest you tell him your exact intentions, thus if he does not respond in your favor, then give him the cold shoulder and move on...
2006-12-15 04:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to either put his purse down and man up or hit the road..but really you are going in circles and one of these times one of u is gonna get hurt and its gonna be to late.
2006-12-15 04:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by Landon R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put an end to it and find someone willing to love, care for and commit to you...
2006-12-15 04:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop him...your on a merry go round and its starting to get old!
2006-12-15 04:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
end it
2006-12-15 04:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by alohafridayalex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋