Do you all think I am dumb? By accepting my husband to bring his kid (one that he had from an affair) to our home for Christmas? He asked me if it was ok, and I said "yes"
2006-12-15 04:22:41 · 12 answers · asked by crazy_sad_songs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
not if it's okay with you. YOu're right. the kid didn't do anything. He should know about his step mom or whatever you are. And you can love him.
personally i think i would have a problem with it, but if you dont, more power to you.
2006-12-15 04:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by sunkist3122 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
really this kid didn't make your husband and his mother have affair. it husband and woman you shoul dbe upset with them. Just be there for the Kid. Let him know the difference if you and his mother. Don't talk any bad things about his mother or father. Think postive.
That would help this kid alot. And no it not dumb for you to say yes. because you want to know this kid and know what he like. smiling. Positive is the best thing in the world.
2006-12-15 04:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are a very good woman to allow him to bring the child over for Christmas. Personally, I'm not so sure if I would be able to handle myself in such a mature way. But you are absolutely right, the child has nothing to do with it. My father had a child outside of his marriage with my step mother. My little brother is 4 years old now and my step mother has yet to even acknowledge him. She acts as if he doesn't exist. So I commend you....you're a wonderful woman!
2006-12-15 04:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good women, this will be difficult and a constant reminder, but for you to be able to do this shows you have a good heart. You are not dumb, you are putting a child's feeling above your own at a special time of year. I hope this is your husband Christmas gift from you. Hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-15 04:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your husband's child and the child is innocent in all this drama. Irregardless of when and by whom the child was conceived, sharing a holiday with a parent is one of the most lasting memories we will have. You are being a caring and compassionate human being here - and THAT, my unknown friend, is never dumb! Good for you and have fun with your step-son and husband.
2006-12-15 04:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. You are very understanding if you stayed with a man that had an affair AND a kid. I agree - nothing against the kid but what about your own kids? Will they be persent at this circus? In theory it sounds nice...but I think is a recipe for disaster!
2006-12-15 04:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
IT'S A VERY DIFFICULT SITUATION. I SEE THAT YOU ALREADY FORGAVE HIM FOR THAT AFFAIR THAT HE HAD. YOU LOVE HIM A LOT, DON'T YOU?! DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU WHAT IS RIGHT AND WHAT IS WRONG. I AM SURE IT'S HARD ENOUGH FOR YOU TO DEAL WITH THE THOUGHT THAT THIS LITTLE INNOCENT KID IS THE CONCEQUENCE OF HIS AFFAIR THAT SURELY BROUGHT YOU A LOT OF PAIN. NO, YOU ARE NOT STUPID AND DON'T BELIEVE ANYONE THAT TELLS YOU THAT, THAT CRITICIZE YOU OR JUDGES YOU.THAT'S YOUR CHOICE.
YOU ARE A VERY STRONG WOMAN! JUST MAKE SURE THAT THIS WON'T RUIN YOUR CHRISTMAS.
2006-12-15 04:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, u r not dumb. he cheated on u and u have forgiven him and gave him another chance. the child has done nothing wrong, he needs a rltp with his dad. u r handling very maturely and it must be really hard to have to look at him.
2006-12-15 04:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if you are not comfortable with this ideea, the kid is his and he is inocent...the kid I mean. life is cruel sometimes...but there are even more horibble things happening and this is not one of them...pass over your pride and respect the kid as a human being...and if your husband ended the "affair"...you should consider lucky...we all expect to be respectes and not cheated on by our husbands..but it looks like they all do it in a certain level...'
good luck
peace
2006-12-15 04:36:23 · answer #9 · answered by meninne3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that this is the RIGHT and mature thing to do.. Its his kid, and when you married him, you signed up for ALL of him including his children... I think you would be dumb if you said NO!
2006-12-15 04:26:55 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋