ex girlfriend is coming to work with me over christmas (i'm an entertainer and the gigs were booked ages ago), but the break up is still very painful for me. what do you suggest?
2006-12-15 04:10:03 · 6 answers · asked by Mark C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry you're in this painful situation, but you need to be professional and just get through it. Adopt an attitude of "professional detachment" and separate your feelings from the job.
How you feel is a choice you make. It may be hard but you have to allow yourself to feel differently. Often times, feelings for an ex are based more on habit than real desire. Many of us let ourselves get stuck in nostalgia when we should really just move on. Good luck and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-15 04:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short of canceling the gig here are some things to consider. Do not get drunk or high prior to gig. That would only leave you more vulnerable and increase the chance of acting out badly. If your apprehension is at the level I guess it is, you may want to go to your doctor. There are some mild anti-anxiety medications that may take some of the edge off, Ativan comes to mind. If you go that route please try taking it some days prior to the gig to see how you react.
Stronger meds like Xanax will provide greater relief but will probably leave you feeling like a head on a stick. Good luck.
2006-12-15 04:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by Paul Finlayson F 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had this problem, after me and my ex broke up, we still had to work together. as in me and him and no one else in the store from 5-8. first, we argued and i cried and he screamed, but eventually i stopped talking and it got better. not really but at least he wasn't blaming me anymore (even though HE was the one that cheated) and i literally said nothing for 3 hours. then i quit.
2006-12-15 04:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's awful, over christmas... be as civil as you can be, but don't linger or get into any in-depth conversation with her. be busy (make sure you actually are, and aren't just pretending), and make sure friends are around (or reachable). split asap afterwards. that's what i'd do anyway.
2006-12-15 04:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work through it
2006-12-15 04:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get someone else.
2006-12-15 04:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by sidekick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋