PLZ THIS IS URGENT!!!!!!
2006-12-15 03:55:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
listen to your heart!! are you second guessing your love for him? being ready to get married? if so, talk to him.
2006-12-15 04:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the jitters. A could time to make a move instead of the last minute. It is your life and vows and commitments are more important than gifts and celebrations. If you feel not ready postpone. If your partner loves you he'll understand. Nobody should be pushed into something as serious if they aren't ready.
Now the other and more important part. Do you love this person?
Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him>
Concentrate on the vows. Sickness and health, good times and bad, till death us do part not until first argument and devorce court in two months. No cheating on one another, no cruelty.
Those last two I wouldn't tolerate. If no it calls for a cancellation.
Even if you love this person are you sure he loves you and will stick by you in a commitment?
Do you trust this person?
If no than cancellation and cancellation is permanent. No point marrying somebody you love if they don't love you and have to hit the devorce court later. You have to live with him, not your mother
father or friends. Don't make a decision to please others you might regret later. Take your time but don't leave it to the last minute. God Bless.
2006-12-15 12:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by robert m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a big and trascendent commitment for the engaged parties. Having doubts befor closing officially this commitment is quite natural and even, wise. The thing is to clear all the possible things that cause you fear or doubt BEFORE marrying, because once you did it, the only way out will be divorce and that is something I wouldn't recommend to anybody, ever (I have had two, so I know how it feels and the depression that it causes.)
2006-12-15 13:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by Rolf M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you're going through. I was in that same position about a year ago. I can't tell you what to do but I can tell you what you need to do. You need to look really deep into your heart and determine if you are for a FACT ready to be with this person for the rest of your life. If you decide not to marry this guy, stand firm with your decision no matter how tough it may seem. Believe me, it's well worth all the trouble, plus you'll be happier in the long run.
2006-12-15 12:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by Chalupa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really should search your heart and find out if he's the one you want to spent the rest of your life with. Usually if someone's having second thoughts then they don't want to get married. Maybe your not ready to marry but you want to stay with that person. You need to find this out before your wedding and make sure it's what you want. Don't wait until it's to late to find this out. It's easier to call off the wedding then to go into it and get married and find out your not ready. Just take my word for it you need to search and find this out and only you can do this.
2006-12-15 12:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is normal really, its a big step in life - to get married! Talk to someone you trust, then if you still feel unsure, cancel it. Its not the end of the world. Don't go thru with the wedding if you have doubts. I don't care if everything is paid for or not. If uncertain, wait.
2006-12-15 14:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have a single doubt or second thought in my mind before I got married. Something isn't right in your relationship if you have second thoughts.
2006-12-15 12:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal!! I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I still have second thought on whether I would ever marry him. Its perfectly normal.
2006-12-15 12:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you are having second thoughts...if you have no valid reason for the second thoughts...then you may have cold feet.
If something about him is bothering you, then you need to address it and then re-evaluate the situation abd perhaps your wedding plans.
2006-12-15 12:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by Wife~and~Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having second thoughts then you need to do some serious soul searching about the commitment you are about to make.
2006-12-15 12:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
second thoughts are perfectly normal. Just do alot of thinking and make sure you make the right decision.
2006-12-15 15:32:51 · answer #11 · answered by Tonya M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋