My son seems to cry whenever he is with his father. He screams when he changes his diaper. I told him that he should probably be a little bit gently with wiping him. He just gets mad and says Im to sensitive. He flips my son in the air, throws him on the bed and even slaps his hands when he gets into thing he shouldnt. At this age they can't comprehend. I just try and keep everything out of reach. I also watch a little girl in my home. Today he had off. The little girl started crying. He tried flipping her in the air and I told him to PUT HER DOWN! He came up to me and used the little girls feet to hit me in the face 4 Xs. I was so angry I cried. And he said AGAIN that Im too sentive of a person. This is the same excuse his mother uses on everybody. Him and his mom are very maniplitive (cant spell) people. Im not sure what I should do. Sometimes I want to leave him and his horrible mean but in mother. Am I overreacting? And YES Ive tried talk ing to him and suggested counsling.
2006-12-15 03:37:18 · 11 answers · asked by momma to 1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To note this was the first time he was somewhat phisical towards me. And he has only slapped my babies hand a few times. I wont say he's abusive just a little rough then he sould be. Our parenting skills clash. He believes in spankings and I dont. I think I was just too frusterated and upset. I'll try and see if I can talk to him some more and even see a counseler about the other things. Thanks for all the responses!
2006-12-15 05:56:07 · update #1
Just from your details, I would leave the jerk, but I obviously don't know the whole story.
He and his mother are not only manipulative, they also sound abusive. That kind of rough play and physical aggression is not appropriate for a 10 month old, or another person's child. He's obviously uncaring of others feelings and inconsiderate with his words and actions.
If he won't go with you to counseling, you can go by yourself. A professional can help you to analyze this situation better, and figure out if there is anything that can be done, or if you and your son would be better off without him. If something can be done to improve things for you, then he/she can give suggestions on how to deal with him and his mother. What to say, how to respond, how to talk to him and get him to listen, etc...
2006-12-15 03:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to go see cousling and you know that didn't mean he is sensitive he can't handle his own kid. I have my own kids 3 and 2 year old girl and boy. yes it can be very mad for me but i walk away and have my wife take over and kids really teach me alot about paient, love, caring, fun, pain in the A@@. But you know they change me so much that everyday I love them and Glad to have them in my life. Smiling.
but like that thowing her and slap you and baby and eveyrthing that abused he got it from his family..... that how it got me from my family but my kids taught me alot and I become great father and If my kids were not born i wouldn't be able to be a great father to my kids.
2006-12-15 05:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your family know he is hitting you AND your child?
You had better tell them because telling him is like telling the wall!
You better think about this, he will not change and you didnt sign up for this crap! Your family does NOT want you living like this and they WILL help you!
Find another solution, staying with him will assure you AND your child a life of grief.
You both deserve more!
2006-12-15 03:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by uzurhead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 08:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The children are yours and you have a duty to save them from that rough behaving people who ever they are. You have to tell your mother and father or who can com to your help and try to put some sense into your husband"s head, OR BETTER LEAVE HIM BUT GO WITH YOUR CHILDREN.CHILDREN are like little flowers. How can he treat them like this? Save your children from that man.
2006-12-15 04:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by cindrella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, grab your baby and get the hell out of there!! The man is a super sized jerk!! Don't let him hurt your baby or you!!! Your not to sensitive, your reacting as a mother should!! Get away from him!!
2006-12-15 04:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consider counsling again and then this time go through with it even if by yourself. Pray for him and take him to churck.
2006-12-15 03:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to condone this, he may end up facing child abuse charges. Leave for the safety and well-being of your son.
2006-12-15 03:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the very least you should stop watching that other child - it's one thing for him to abuse his own kid - it's another to abuse a child your watching AND charge them for daycare. He needs counseling NOW.
2006-12-15 03:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of that relationship a soon as possible.nobody has the right to hit you and he has no right in the world to hit a baby.tell your family and get a divorce.
2006-12-16 05:20:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff and Vanessa T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋