is it o.k to marry someone six month after u meet them.is there something wrong with it. can someone please help me.he wants to marry me.i will like some good inputs about it
2006-12-15 03:32:41 · 11 answers · asked by baby girl 123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My father married his second wife 6 months after they'd met and they just celebrated their 30th anniversary, so it's not unthinkable.
However, you need to both be mature enough to know where you want to go in life. I wouldn't suggest to it anyone still in college (or younger). If one of you is settled in a home you own, you both have careers and you've discussed the big issues like kids, how you plan to deal with aging parents and where you see yourselves in 20 years, and you still think you're compatible, go for it.
If you're still young, unsettled and undecided, don't rush. Anyone who truly loves you will wait for you to be ready. If they won't, they're not right for you anyway...
Good Luck!
2006-12-15 03:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Kya Rose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it always depends on where you are in your life... 6 months is not very long, have you really had a big fight, do you know all about each other, you have to think, is this really someone you could spend the rest of your life with. I think when you know, you know. I was with my BF for 3 1/2 years before we got engaged and when we get married, we would have been together for 4 1/2 years... so I think its always best not to rush into things, you have your whole life to be married.... Try dating at least a year, then get engaged and have a year engagement.... Good LUck.
2006-12-15 11:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's quick, and you'll have many people telling you not to do it. Look inside your heart and your mind (don't ignore your mind either), and see if this is really a person you can commit the rest of your life to. Generally, shortly after a person "falls in love" they are on such a high that they're not thinking clearly on their partner, they're looking at them through the proverbial "rose colored glasses." However, I've seen marriages work when they met and married all within a short time period. I've seen more fail miserably though, so I'd say the odds are not in your favor.
2006-12-15 11:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My expeience is that you need to get to know some one very well before you go permanet. I married my ex 18 days after i met him. We were married 18 years. During that time I found out he had a lot of emotional problems and was a big game player. He new how to work people and get what he wanted. We had three wonderful kids but they ended up paying in the long run also. Please think twice, this could be a very bad situation that you do not want to get in to.
2006-12-15 11:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband for the first time on Nov 20th. Our first date was on Dec. 4th and he proposed to me on Dec 24, I married him on April 10th. We've been married for almost 8 years now. Looking back I think I would have liked to date longer, but if I had the chance I really don't know if I would change anything if I could. The most important thing is to go into marriage with no thoughts of ever getting out. It is a life time thing. At times it WILL get hard, but if you will ride out the storm it will be worth it. Make sure you love him, not lust him!! And always remember if the fire goes out it is your fault for not putting more wood on. Good luck in whatever you decide!
Everone might tell you to make sure you can't live without him before you say yes, but my mom told me to make sure you can live with him. If you think about it, it really makes since. Do you really want to see his face every morning at breakfast, is he the one you won't mind cleaning up after every day. Is he someone you can walk beside with pride? Do you really want him to be the father of your children? Write down every thing you like about him and everything you don't like about him. Which list is longer. Can you live with the things you don't like? Hope this helps!
2006-12-15 13:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Bekka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wise 6 months is not long enough to get to know the person, if he wants to marry you now then he'll want to marry you in a year once you've gotten to know each other better, have you met his family, has he met yours, have you discussed where you're gonna live, are you gonna work, what about kids..these are the type of things that are usually discussed during the dating process.
2006-12-15 11:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parent did that and have been married for almost 28 years. Really it depends on if you feel this is the right person for you. Its different for everybody. Sometimes it works out and others just jump in and make a big mistake. Make sure you really know this person and can't live without them before you make a decision.
2006-12-15 11:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband asked me to marry him after 3 months, but then we had a year engagement.
Only you can decide if it's the right one to marry. Make sure you really love him and understand that marriage is a huge commitment and change in life. Are you in love with him or just in lust with him?
Get pre-marital counselling as well.
2006-12-15 11:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never know a person until you live with them. Six months is not long enough to really get to know some one you should live together for a year then you will really know this person and then see if this is some one you want to spend the rest of your life with. IT is no fun getting a divorce.
2006-12-15 11:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no timeframe. At all. My father says that the day he met my mother he told her, I'm going to marry you. :) They just had their 31st anniversary on Monday.
The only thing is, decide if this is truly the person for you. If it is, go for it. It's not every day you fall in love.
2006-12-15 11:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋