but he is a muslim and he can marry up to 3 women..but i am thinking if i will be happy in this kind of relationship..i am a catholic and if ever we wil be getting married i will convert into muslim, i am ready to do that. but everyday my agony of feeling guilty and sorry for his wife is killing me i dont want to hurt her because her husband is my boyfriend..Actually he already tell his wife (abroad) that he is having a relationship here in country which we are both staying..but until now i am really confused if i still need to continue the relationship with him.. i love him but im really confused. help me need some advices..thank u
2006-12-15 03:26:43 · 18 answers · asked by vita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why can't you find a hot catholic stud.. there are plenty of us around
2006-12-15 03:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were raised in a culture where there is a husband and a wife...ONE wife. Therefore this makes you his mistress and you are part of an adulterous relationship. I'm not making a judgment, this is how it is.
I do not know if it is true that Muslims can have 3 brides because of all the Muslims I know, they only have one wife each.
If you wish to become Muslim, that is your choice, but make sure you do it for the right reasons and NOT just so you can feel better about marrying a guy who already has one wife.
Are you confident in yourself that you are able to share your man with other women? If not, then you've just found the answer to your dilemma.
2006-12-15 11:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really feel strongly about marrying him then you should do it. You shouldn't feel guilty because it is the Muslim way to have more than one wife and you remember if you do get married to him that there could possibly be another woman after you.
2006-12-16 23:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by pvt.huey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all just to let you know you are being a homewrecker,but i totally understand where you are coming from.you need to consider everyones feelings in this situation.What if you were his wife and you knew that he had someone else on the side,what would you do?I think you should really think about what your doing.I understand that you love him but you must do something,even if it means you getting hurt.
2006-12-15 11:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel Hillhouse`s Girl! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow honestly i dont think it is a good idea at all!! When you marry someone it is a commitment that you love that person & you promise to always be there for them .......etc & you cant have a true marriage comment if you have more than one wife i think you need to seriously pray about this!!!!!!!! GOOD LUCK! :)
2006-12-15 11:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by being patient with love♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do what is best for you. I think you don't like being the other women and that is what you are in any religion. Go and find someone who wants to be with one women and one women only!!You deserve that much respect!!! Good luck!!!!
2006-12-15 11:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously don't think this is morally correct..... and why would you want to share you husband with someone else? I would leave him! Find a nice catholic man that only has one perosn in mind which will be you!
2006-12-15 11:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by Destinee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you young lady are a homewrecker. you went into a relationship knowing that he was married and I only hope that one day when you are married that your husband has a girlfriend on the side also
2006-12-15 11:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you ever want to be second best in the eyes of the man you love?
Find your own man who only wants YOU. You're worth it.
And don't forget, if he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you.
2006-12-15 11:29:58 · answer #9 · answered by Stacey K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl.... That guy has NO RESPECT for his wife.... What could you possibly be thinking... because seriously!!! If he doesnt respect her, what on earth makes you think he will respect you? Or not do the same thing to you??
2006-12-15 11:29:40 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already know that this relationship is wrong. He is married. Enough said.
2006-12-15 11:30:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋