I found out I have breast cancer, I waited to long to go to the doctor. I have all must things in order. I just wonder, with less than 6 weeks, what I could do to add meaning to my life. I am 51, I have done many adventurous things in my short life. I have no children to carry on behind me. I just want my life to have meant something. Any ideas?
2006-12-15 03:13:53 · 27 answers · asked by jjust wondering 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Do what ever you damn well please. it is you now and your family. i am going through similar sit. but hubby has 3-6 months. trying to enjoy every moment. have a party and enjoy.
My God Bless You and your family..
2006-12-15 12:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by always 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, have no regrets in whatever you choose to do in your remaining time.
Second, please remember that no one, not even a doctor can really predict how much 'time' you have. They are giving you a calculated guess and no more. Doctors really should stop giving out these types of weeks, months, and yearly prognosis. So, you should toss out the calendar, clocks, and watches . . time is no longer a consideration for you. Than go out and live your life one day at a time. If you want to add meaning to your life, give your time to someone else that may need it. Find a charity or improve a community in some way. Whatever charity or purpose is close to your heart . . invest in it with what finances you have left or with your precious time.
I know a young 16 year old boy, Michael F. (has the same cancer as my son) who decided to use his Make a Wish to establish a charitable Foundation to bring electronic toys, games, and laptops into children's hospitals. He has been enormously successful and not only buys the items but makes the deliveries personally. Perhaps you could consider doing something similar:
Mikey's Way Foundation, Inc.
http://www.mikeysway.org/
2006-12-15 08:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Panda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as Tim McGraw says in his song, live like you were dying. I'd say go do some things you have always wanted to do but never taken the time to do. Go enjoy and celebrate the 51 years you have had. I know that when I was told I had only a month or so, I decided I wasn't going down without a fight, even if I had very little chance for survival. And well, I fought but I didn't fall. So if you have the fight in you, I say go for it. Keep your faith strong through the fight and even if you went to the doctor too late and the odds are stacked against you, it doesn't matter. The main thing for you to do is what you want to do. It is your life to live to the fullest. May you live the next 6 months of your life as if each day may be your last. May you receive so much from those days ahead that your cup runs over with fond memories of the past. I shall keep you in my prayers and I hope that everything works out for the best for you. :-)
2006-12-15 06:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by William Heard 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel so awful for you. Reading your note it feels like you've made peace with this. Honestly I don't know the answer. These are some things that occur to me. If there's anything that bothers you that happened in the past and you have the power to go back and fix it, perhaps say, "I'm sorry" to someone that you really do care about, then maybe that might be one thing. Making your peace with God would be another. Your probably already appreciating the little things more and figuring out what seemed important at times in your life isn't as important now. I can't imagine what that's like and I pray that I don't ever have to find out. You've already done one thing for me. I know that my mom and I need to get our mammogram. Your a shining light for other women by sharing here today. You've already done something just in asking a question. God Bless you sweet lady.
2006-12-15 03:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are able health wise to go out and Volunteer with a orginazation like Hospice then I think that would give great meaning in your life to have helped so many sick people that are facing the end of their lives. I work for Hospice myself and each and every day I come home after work feeling so good about what I do helping others get through the day and every last day of their lives with a smile. Just a visit from someone who cares makes a difference in life.
2006-12-15 13:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by Summergirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your breast cancer. If I had six weeks to live I would spend it telling all the people in my life the things I always meant to say but didn't. Take a little time for myself to think about all the great things that happened in my life and say my goodbyes. But maybe most of all I think I would not give up on life. I would hope for a cure and maybe try to help others with cancer such as volunteering at a hospice helping terminal patients and their family's accept cancer. Think of this part of your life as a short journey to a bigger place. If your married maybe make a video of yourself talking about your life and history with your husband and family and leave it for the future for them. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-12-15 04:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by smile4u 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I walked down the aisle at 8 months pregnant. talk about a toddler bump! We loved one yet another previously the concept and the marriage got here about even as the timing worked, not rushed only because. Your dates are set, the marriage will ensue. If absolutely everyone receives nasty in the route of you, tell then the toddler is a blessing and got here about for a reason. you'd be married previously the start, so i do not see why they ought to grant you a troublesome time. in case you opt for an extra tip, you could position your plant life over your abdomen to cover the bump. I wasn't embarassed at my difficulty, even though it replaced into nice to have a wedding ceremony image on the mantle that did not scream "married reason behind the toddler" ( I have a lot of images showing my bump).That wasn't why we married and that i did not opt for a image that made it look that way. best of desires and ignore concerning the nasty comments!
2016-11-30 19:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God bless you... I don't have any ideas but I do have a sister that is 38 and has the same sentence. But she is leaving to young sons. I don't know if you have money or not but you could leave some money for cancer research in your memory. I am so sorry for you and I pray that you are with my sister and that you can be friends on the other side. You have made an impact on me just by asking this question. God Bless you .
2006-12-15 04:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by Alisha S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's best to exhaust all your efforts in helping breast cancer awareness possible so it may not be too late for them. You could save lives. You could also make a journal of your remaining days telling people about your life since you must've lived a full one so that you can touch others by making copies and sharing it when you have passed on.
2006-12-15 03:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mando 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
firstly i am so sorry to hear this. my prayers are with you. i think i would sit down and write a very personal letter to everyone in my family, and to my closest friends. i would tell them how much they mean to me.if i offended them i would ask their forgiveness. i would remind them of some of the happy times we spent together. if you have any pics, you could put one in with each letter. while waiting to find out how far advanced my cancer was, i did this. i felt a lot better about a lot of things afterwards. i have all the letters tucked away, and one day i will give them to each of them anyhow. spend as much time with the people you love, this is very hard on them too. whatever you decide to do, it will be the right thing for you.
2006-12-15 12:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by barb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion...I would try to grown spiritually...I would try to heal my spirit and soul as well as to make up with people and admite that I did mistakes which I lerned from and whish I had doen in a different way... I think this is the most important thing to do..
I show express my love to those care for me as well as for those who I upset their feelings..
You are not dead yet, so there is still hope..I heard and know cases that people received miracle from someone back in Brazil his name (John of God) you can find it on internet. just time the name on google search.... There are thousands of case but 2 I know as a fact.. Someone very special in my life had same problem and now she is completely cured. A friend who was on his final weeks with brain tumor, liver and lost half of his body movements paralyzed and with hep. C. Now he is teaching martial arts in a perfect health.
I think that you still have the key...It is up to you to walk to the door and receive a miracle. If not, I guess we most accept our next step..
I hope from my heart that I helped you. I only want you to look up and say I am a fighter and I will do anything it takes for my growth spiritually and to received and miracle that I may deserve..
Wish you well.
2006-12-15 15:17:11 · answer #11 · answered by no ar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋