What can I do to get closure - he's obviosly got communication problems. He said this when he was drunk - He's afraid that I will keep my son (who he has made himself daddy to) away from him. My heart hurts what can I do?
2006-12-15 03:11:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His loss. Move on and let your child continue to have a relationship with him. You really cant blame someone for falling out of love. Just wasn't meant to be.
2006-12-15 03:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by KLR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I would ask him to tell you himself what he told your friend (just to be sure it's the truth). That will give you closure. You will know for sure how he feels. Secondly, you do need to break up if he meant that. And, yes, your son should not be hanging out with an "ex." But, it is so sad for kids to have "daddy" after "daddy." It hurts them emotionally to get attached and then lose another person. If I were a single parent, I wouldn't even introduce my child to my new boyfriend until I was SURE this was a guy I might want to marry. I'd never live with as guy with my kid, and I'd protect that boy from all manner of arguments and trauma.
2006-12-15 03:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is forgive and forget.
I know that killes you when you hear it coming from his mouth but he was not fully there at that time.
If you where in his place what would you do it one thing you did and happen when you got drunk and losted eveything...you would never forgive yourself and feel ruined inside and out.
If he said sorry just forgive even if he didn't...i mean he is a daddy most men would run away ...forgive and move on.
Mayb your friend mentioned you when he was drunk and made him say such thing...it's quite possible.
2006-12-15 03:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by Unknown_Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you think would be the best for both of you. Do not take it as a huge setback, at least you know that maybe you guys weren't meant for each other before you got married to one another. If you have no reasons to prevent him from seeing your child, then by all means the 3 of you can still remain as friends. :)
2006-12-15 03:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by JuZ88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him first. That will be the first start of closure. Then you need to move on and slowly. It will take time. If he doenst love you anymore there is no reason to drag it on. Your only human and life hurts. Especially when it comes to your loved oned and right around Christmas too.....take it easy on yourself and talk with him. Maybe he is just confused.
2006-12-15 03:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by Believe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont say he has communication problems~ i thinkyou both have that problem b/c instead of talking with him you r asking us what can you do!!! you can get up right now & go talk to this man face2face (A.S.A.P) & tell him also he better not never discuss things of that nature with anyone other than you & mean it!!!!!! keep us posted...good luck & best wishes... oh re-evaluate this so called friendship, b/c im wondering how this convo got started, she had to put her 2 cents into &probably isnt telling the "WHOLE" story......
2006-12-15 03:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you need to talk about things and let him know that you wont keep you child away if he want to see him, but to not stay with you if he isnt fully committed to you, let him know that even though it may hurt now - it will get better and dont try to pressure him into anything - let him go if thats what he really wants...either he will come crawling back or it wasnt meant to be.....
2006-12-15 03:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, he maybe unhappy and didnt know how to tell you, its best you find out now than to go through the motions and he ends up cheating or walking out one day when you think all is going well.
2006-12-15 03:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in vino veritas
in wine there is truth
you need to do whats right for your son. don't use him as a pawn. but you deserve happpiness, and someone who does not love you anymore is not going to make you happy.
2006-12-15 03:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like some other have already advised........How trustworthy is this friend? Was the friend drinking too?
2006-12-15 03:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by donewithyahooanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋