Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 months.
He's really sweet and has alot of trust in me.
Were in a long distant relationship. Have been since May. (we went to school together....So we werent always in a long distant relationship)
We both dont think eachother would be cheating on one another.....
But.....I tell my boyfriend about me and my guy friend hanging out.
i tell him how much fun we have together and mess around and stuff.
I think my boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him (but im not.)
Do you think he's just jelouse because he feels i'll fall for my guy friend?
What should i do? Should i stop telling my boyfriend about me and my guy friend hanging out?
I know my boyfriend has alot of trust in me....But i think that he has a little thought in the back of his head that i might be cheating on him.
WHAT SHOULD I DO!?
2006-12-15 02:51:59 · 18 answers · asked by ...[♥♠]... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'd feel the same way he does. dont talk up your friend to your bf. thats kind of threatening/insulting. he should be okay with it but i can totally see where he's coming from. dont lie to him about hanging out with your friend but dont say positive things about your friend. talk about your friend and say things like hes a lot of fun but he never makes me laugh the way you do. stuff like that.
2006-12-15 02:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know all about your situation. I always had guy buddies. I had friends that were girls, too, but I usually hung out with the guys. Plus, most of the girls I hung out with really acted more like the guys (chugging beer, belching, etc.), while all appeared quite feminine. Anyway, he is probably jealous. Truth be known, he is probably more afraid of what your buddy is thinking (and probably rightly so) than he is of what you are thinking. What you could do is start hanging out with this guy in a group of people (if you have mutual friends), rather than just mostly one-on-one. That might ease his mind a bit. Also, reassure him that if your buddy EVER makes a pass at you, you are not interested and will avoid those situation from then on. Guys don't understand girls that hang out with guys, mostly because guys usually don't hang out with girls unless they want something and they assume we think the same way. Though it is possible to have a plutonic relationship with a guy, be careful. AND DON'T HIDE IT!!! THIS CAN ONLY MAKE HIM WONDER EVEN MORE!!!!!
2006-12-15 03:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he's jealous! You're out of reach for him, and you're telling him about what a wonderful time you have with someone else and he's feeling left out. Oftentimes guys want to hear that you're having trouble even existing without being near him. Of course medium ground is dfferent, but he's feeling a little lonely, because he's not having as much fun. If he were to go and find a girl to have plutonic fun with, it may ease the friction. But before long, you may both be happy with new found friends. Perhaps you are both very liberal, but still he's experiencing and old-fashioned feeling. It's not so much sexual (although it can creep into one's mind) but the fact that he's been supplanted by someone else. You need to remember his feelings and keep things balanced when talking about you good times with an male.
Just my opinion
Good luck
2006-12-15 02:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by stretch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has a right to feel a little jealous, I know I'd be. Sometimes the honesty can be mistaken for a cover up so it won't look like you're hiding anything. If there truly isn't anything going on between you and you're guy friend you may want to limit contact with him just out of respect for your boyfriend. I mean, how would you feel if the tables were turned?
2006-12-15 02:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by geminig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in his shoes. If he told you how wonderful of a time he was having with his female friend. How would you feel? You have to be honest to yourself about it. Long distant relationship are very difficult, maybe you two should consider ending it and being friends before you end up hating each other because of the jealousy and accusations. Just a suggestion.
2006-12-15 03:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by mvas800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up...Long Distant relationships never work! I know you may have strong feelings, but when two people are apart...they tend to have stronger feelings for eachother. This can cause unhealthy feelings of jealousy and outrageous acts of anger or frustration. It never seems to work.
If you don't want to break up, then yes...stop telling about your guy friend. This will eliminate some jealousy.
2006-12-15 02:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you will give up your guy friend. He is jealous. He doesnt want you falling for someone else. He knows you miss him, and knows you must be lonely, and he wants to be the one with you. That is sweet. But, if you want the long distance thing to work, you need to give him nothing to be suspicious about. And, be fully accountable. He needs to do the same! Dont let the opportunity arise to cheat!! Avoid it, if you relationship is worth it!
2006-12-15 03:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
comming for a male's PoV. It's extremely hard for a guy to hear that other guys are around your love, i know i would be extremely jealous and would have a tad of a problem knowing how we guys get. Why would you want him to know your talking to other guys and having a great time with them? You can leave out the details.. =D I would suggest (if it were me on the other end) being told that you hung out with a group of friends, or your hung out with A friend, isnt bad at all over hanging out with A guy and going out with him and having fun together and messing around.. see what i mean. even if it is completly innocent on both parties behalf you have to see it from his pov.
2006-12-15 03:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Paolo P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure he's jealous. And by being so far away, he can't really intervene. I would have to tell you to stop hanging out with this other guy. How would you feel if he were hanging out with other women and calling you to tell you about how much fun it was? It's like rubbing it in his face.
2006-12-15 02:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh you need to stop talking about your guy friend in front of your boyfriend, he'll feel like your trying to make him jealous, and if he asks you if there is anything going on, be honest with him and tell him no, that he is just a good friend, and nothing will ever happen.
2006-12-15 02:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋