Here is my problem I work in an large office, I share a small room with another woman, whom I can't stand. She is much older than I am and I just don't get along with her. For Christmas I plan to give most people a gift, but I don't want to get her anything. Is this rude? What is the etiqutte on this type of thing. I know she isn't going to give me anything either. I'd rather spend my money on someone I really care about than her. Please don't judge me, I am a really nice person, I just don't want to spend money on her.
2006-12-15 02:40:22 · 6 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
btw....we have only worked together for about 7 months.
2006-12-15 02:40:52 · update #1
Gift giving is never an obligation, even on common gift-giving occasions, like Christmas and weddings. It is generous but never required. (Miss Manners has said this over and over)
I'd say don't give a gift if you don't really want to, but be discreet about giving gifts to others in front of her.
2006-12-15 02:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not any reliable practise guide, so i'd propose this try: a million. Do I savor the paintings the fellow performs? 2. If i became of their footwear, would i extremely savor the gesture? 3. How a lot am i able to have adequate money? in case you may have adequate money to provide the gardener a $5 present card, then it is a reliable quantity. Do you stay in a mansion that has four hundred shrubs that prick the guy to lack of life? Than $5 is more desirable of a "I even ought to get you some thing."
2016-10-18 08:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't obligated to give her anything not even a card. She is neither friend nor family. Although, she is a coworker she isn't assigned to you as a person for a secret santa arrangement. However, you would be a much bigger person than her if you let the holiday spirit move you to at least give her a token chocolate sampler and a card. The chocolate cost less than a dollar or so.
2006-12-15 02:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, no this is not rude you are entitled to give to whom you please. You dont have to give a gift to her just because the two of you share the same office. This is your hard earned money and if you choose not to spend it on her then don't.
2006-12-15 02:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually giving her somthing if you know she isn't going to give you anything would make you look like the bigger person. Get her something silly like a pair of christmas socks or a card that says Wal-mart gave out these coupons for personalaties, you should use it. lol somebody did that to me one year as ajoke.
2006-12-15 02:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't give her any gifts. But don't rub it in her face when giving to the others. Do it behind her back.
2006-12-15 02:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋