My wife and I decided to tie the knot after getting a sweet little babygirl. She invited me to move in with her family since she has a steady job in her hometown but I am still trying to get a transfer. Her Dad detests my stay there and often sneers at me, even mumbling some invectives within my earshot. He's really getting on my nerves but my wife says that that is his usual attitude towards people he's not used to, and that eventually he'd get used to my presence. How should I deal with the situation?
2006-12-15 02:38:59 · 10 answers · asked by ari-pup 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Move your family out of HIS house. Living with in-laws is never a good idea. I lived with mine for four years and we got along great for about the first six months then we started getting on each others nerves. It is hard to live under someone elses roof and rules. It is obvious he resents you getting his daughter pregnant, I have an 18 yr old daughter and I would feel the same way. Best to get out and stay out of his way until time has a chance to heal his bitterness.
2006-12-15 02:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by e.sillery 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you've done a lot to generate his respect, having a baby with his daughter before you married her. I assure you that if you would have done things the right way, you would project a different image and a different aura would exist in that home.
I think that he regards you as some sort of alien (perhaps subconsciously), and probably rightfully so. Sorry.
I don't know why every story on here is pretty much the same, in one fashion or another. People not doing things the right way, according to the liberal code of living, which is proven not to work.
2006-12-15 02:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by Joe C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess just try to be nice & endure him as long as u stay there.. But try to find another small apartment for u & ur little family.. Living with the parents hardly works.. It usually brings problems & may even distroy relationships..
But till u move, try to b nice & endure him, remember, old people are usually hard to deal with! But make sure not to make any long-lasting injuries in ur relationship with him!
Wish u good luck!
2006-12-15 02:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ouzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter how nice a guy you are, a father is never going to be happy having his daughter and the guy having sex with his daughter under the same roof, unless it is for a visit. Get out there and find your own place.
2006-12-15 02:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Monstblitz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should confront him nicely and tell him that both of you love his daughter and you feel you are doing the best you can right now for your family, and you will be able to get out soon.. also let him know that you appreciate his hospitality... be the bigger man here and explain your intentions... make sure you cover all the ground you can and try to communicate the best way you can, and after that, if he still doesnt respect you, screw him... you did your best...
2006-12-15 02:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by hihosilver2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your own place, because usually its the issue with 2 men living in the same house is not good. Good luck.
2006-12-15 02:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be as nice as possible to him, no matter how you feel. Try being friends with him. He will eventually loosen up. Otherwise have your wife talk to her dad about how hes treating you and how hes making you feel.
2006-12-15 02:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him
2006-12-15 02:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by sweetre2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be nice to him and yes in time he will be your best friend lol
2006-12-15 02:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
kick him in the head
2006-12-15 02:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by scottboss64 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋