my boyfriend thinks iam cheating on him, i dont like him any more and i know we will not be together, and my first child was from a different guy, and im only 15, what SHOULD i do????!
2006-12-15 02:29:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
you do realise i hope, that when stupid questions like this occur, we all check your previous questions before we answer. get a life!
2006-12-15 02:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by fanlight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first I think you should be getting a high school education. If you are pregnant there are options through the school system to help you better yourself. You need to do everything you can to make a better life for yourself and your baby. Where is your family? Why isn't there someone that cars enough about you to kick your butt and get you moving in the right direction? It is unfortunate that you are not experiencing a normal childhood and high school life. You can turn your life around if you have enough self esteem and go all the way even college. There are alot of alternatives for you. I have seen some girls go all the way to becoming nurses etc and having happy successful lives and I have seen many that use the system then fall back into the same rut. I honestly have to admit I resent all that you will be offered as I had to do without to put my daughter through college as I had to pay! She went through high school and worked hard and had parents that cared about her. Unfortunately the system does not reward that! You on the other hand can get a free ride. Don't throw away this opportunity!! Don't let anything stop you!! You will only get instant gratification if your boyfriend decides to be nice to you here and there. Go for the delayed gratification !! A high school degree and then college!! That will ultimately make you happier!!! Trust me! Be strong! Good luck!
2006-12-15 02:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by surfer1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, firstly are you financially, physically and emotionally able to take care of a second child???
Get rid of the bf as soon as possible because you already know that it will not work.
Locate an adoption agency in your area and make arrangements for adoption upon delivery. The sooner this is done the better so that the baby will not have to be in the hands of social services for long. I know that it will be difficult but from my understanding of your ituation, it may be best.
This way you can still be a part of your child's life in the future (make sure to make a clause for this) and you will not have the regret of an abortion.
And definitely, if you are going to be sexually active, join a family planning programme. The child's life is the one most affected by our decisions.
I will go further to say that you need to stabalize your life NOW!!!
Good luck and take sometime to grow up and mature. You are losing precious chilhood years that can never be re-gained.
2006-12-15 02:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by stacy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okie Dokie, lets get this straight. Your 15 years old and you already have 2 kids? I'm only 23 and having my first kid. Your so young. If you don't like your boyfriend anymore end it. There is no point in being in a relationship that makes you unhappy.
One thing though Hun, the next guy you end up with use protection or better yet don't open your legs. Your far too young to have 2 kids.
2006-12-15 22:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pregnant with your child and you are only 15. You really should be mature and think about this problem yourself. You are trying to tell me that you have your first child already. You don't even work and how can you pay for your children?? Your boyfriend thinks you are cheating him and perhaps he is cheating on you and is not seriously about your baby. You should not have your second child. One child can ruin your life already. You should ask yourself, how can you support a child if you are still a child yourself.
2006-12-15 02:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by youngwoman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO you didnt ruin his life. He made the concious decision to lay down and make that baby with you. SO in all fairness, he "ruined" his life. If he didnt want the responsibility, he should have never tried to play adult games. He obviously dont know what love is. Therefore he dont love you. Move on sweetie. Theres a world of joy for you. That baby will be hard to raise, especially at 15 years old. But im sure you have love and support out there. Keep your head up. Forget about him and raise that baby with love.
2016-05-24 20:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow girl i really feel sorry for you...im almost 18....i was kicked out and moved in wiht my bf at 15...i found out i was pregnant and i had my daughter at 16...we split up an d i hate him...i am now with someone i love and who loves me...he adores my dauhgter and takes better care of her than her real dad.....i want to have another baby just not rihgt away...my advice is that one you need to wait before you have anymore...you need to leave him if you dont really love him...find a way to take care of your children...get help from famliy and friends...get your life straight..so you have a life your children will be proud of.....you may only be 15 but now you have to grow up and stop thinking about yourself....do whats best for you children....if your bf thinks he's not the father have a dna test done when the baby is born.....make sure both dads help you with their children
2006-12-15 08:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by naughty_equals_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first things first, get rid of the bf. 2nd, you are 15 and having your 2nd child, stop having unprotected sex! Who takes care of your oldest child? If you love your chilren make the best decision for them. Put this baby up for adoption, it is the hardest decision a mother could ever make but you will be giving your child a life that you are unable to give them now.
2006-12-15 03:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a good support system to help you through this. If your parents are willing ask them for help. You also have the choice of adoption. I know you are very young but I am against abortion so I dont see that as an option, even though you have your own personal choice.
2006-12-15 02:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by Shampaine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOTE TO EVERYONE ELSE, CHECK THIS CHICKS OTHER QUESTIONS BEFORE YOU FEEL SORRY FOR HER AND ATTEMPT A SINCERE ANSWER.
according to all your other question i wouldnt doubt at least four out of five doctors agree that you are insane. Is this the only way you get attention? where are your parents cause its time for them to check in on you, and why arent you in school you posted this fairly late for school. you need to grow up and if you are pregnant ill adopt it and give it a good home, hell ill even take the other one of your hands. the state should get involve because obviously your an idiot. an insane idiot.
2006-12-15 06:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are pregnant now and just because you don't want to be with the father doesn't mean you have to hate your baby. have the baby and take this as a lesson learned. let you guardian know so someone can sign for you to get your tubes tied. you are really to young to be having your second child. i am praying for you. good luck.
2006-12-15 02:51:43 · answer #11 · answered by blaqie2284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋