My best friends roommate in college has this boyfriend...well me and him became really good friends and we were getting to know each other. Well he told me they broke up...and something in my head made me believe him. Well somethings happened between him and I sexually, and well now I am being called a slut and a ****** for ruining my friends roommates relationship...How do I make things better in this situation..I never expected anything to happen between me and him, but at the same time i enjoyed his company...Please help!
2006-12-15 02:19:05 · 21 answers · asked by Jessica Meganâ?¢ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me just say that he lives here with me and she lives in a completely different part of the state...when he told me they had broken up and just wanted someone he knew who lived here to hang out with he called me...he came to my house and things led to other things that were unexpected...i didn't ask for it to happen it just did. It's not exactly all my fault that their relationship is **** now...if he hadn't cheated on her then it would be ok...so stop accusing me of being the person that asked for it all to happen
2006-12-15 02:34:44 · update #1
I agree with you serenity. But the only part that's the worst...she is still with him...and i dont want to be with him...cause if he cant expose to everyone that he has made a bad decision then he's not worth my time...i just want to see the best way to handle my best friends roommate...she's turned a lot of my friends against me...i just dont want to keep losing my friends because i've exposed the truth and everyone thinks i'm a lying ******
2006-12-15 02:37:46 · update #2
Well first of all you shouldn't have messed around with him in the first place knowing that you would have to face his gf or ex again at some point in time. If you continue to see him, I don't think that things will get better in time for the sake of your best friend's roommate but maybe you could have a relationship with him. If they were still together though and he lied about it just to get down your pants, what does that say about what kind of man he is? Would you really want to be involved with someone who can do that to his gf, with the risk that you might become attached and later on have him do that to you? I think that the best thing that you can do is to stop seeing the scumbag and apologize to the roommate. Tell her that he had said that they were broken up and that you had no intentions of hurting her or your relationship. You need to be the bigger person in this situation and once again I would not waste my time on some dude that lies about being single. He took advantage of her trust and yours as well and to be honest, you did the roommate a favor by exposing this douche bag for who he really is. I just hope you aren't blinded by your emotions and can actually use your head and your good reasoning to see that you shouldn't waste your time with him either. Good luck and take care:)
2006-12-15 02:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would take this as a situation to learn from. Never get too close to your friends boyfriends...its very dangerous and you have learned why. Even if they HAD broken up, imagine how your friend would have felt if she heard you and her EX were screwing around?!?!
Anyway, time will usually heal this kind of thing. Show your friend how good of a friend you are and give her a little space. Send her some flowers with a sweet note but give her the space she needs to get over what you did. It was certainly a hurtful thing and she has a right to be upset for a little while.
2006-12-15 02:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by Trevor 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just try to explain to her that it was his choice! He was the liar and the deceiver and not you. Women get upset with other women, but it is the guys fault! He was the one who did the wrong thing. She needs to realize this. And, in future, a little advice, stay away from people who sleep with those who you know! Word travels fast, and it is so easy to go from friend to sl*t!! I dont say that to be mean, but just as a girl who has been there before!!
2006-12-15 02:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best music approximately this certain hindrance might be "Hotel California" via The Eagles. Still a pleasant album--I have an historic vinyl reproduction that I bought for my 14th birthday in (choke) 1977.
2016-09-03 16:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He conned you. If you're ever in a situation like that again, confirm both sides of the story before becoming involved. Live and let learn.
2006-12-15 02:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your girlfriend that you had been lead to understand that the guy and her were not together any longer and you were feeling sorry for him and decided that he needed sex with you to get over her. After all, you were only looking out for both of their wellbeing...and you wold do the same for any of your other girlfriends boyfriends if they needed a little on the side.
2006-12-15 02:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to work on an oil rig in the middle of the atlantic, plus learn to play the theromine
2006-12-15 02:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well first of all youshouldnt even think of being with him your friend broke up with him yes or no you should know it would end like this once your friend may end the relationship but still have feelings for him it will end stink yes he lie but you should go to your friend and explain before make your move if it was truue they broke up talk to your friend if its ok to be with him.
well yes or no i dont think i would wantto be with my friends ex.
2006-12-15 02:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you can just tell your friend the truth.... and my g'friends and i always had a rule in college and when we were dating in general that we never went for anothers sloppy seconds.....we are all many years out of college now and still really good friends
2006-12-15 02:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your friend and tell her the truth,tell her you'll respect her whether she believes you or not,then get rid of that man and learned from your mistakes.Apologise to your roommate for the pain you cause her,,,
2006-12-15 02:23:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋