I want to get married by 25 is it ok if I (female) pop the question?
2006-12-15 02:11:51 · 27 answers · asked by tweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
though conventionally, it is the man who asks the woman. but if ur into a relationship thats heading towards marriage, u can wait for ur guy to pop the question but if u want to do the honours, u can do something like monica did friends, i think it would be cool for a girl to pop the question. u can make it superspecial. and btw who cares about conventions in today's world.... all the best
2006-12-15 02:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is shame on anyone who says a woman shouldn't propose because she has to wait until the man is ready. That is the most absurd thing. You won't know if they are ready until you ask.
Personally, I asked my NOW FIANCE to marry me. I'm a romantic, he isn't. I figured, the only way I was going to get the proposal of my dreams was to do it myself. So, while we were on vacation in Paris in May, I proposed while on a dinner boat cruise on the Seine River. It will hands down be the most romantic moment of my life and I will never regret it. the other great part to our story was that about a month after getting home he surprised me with a ring and a second proposal!
Anyways if a woman is ready to get married, it is either she either proposes and finds out where the relationship is or she waits....and waits.....and waits until her boyfriend actually thinks long enough about planning the proposal.
Kudos to romantic men but ladies, sometimes we just have to do it ourselves!!!
2006-12-15 12:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by PAWS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Proposing is like a rite of passage for men, it would just be wrong to take that away from them. But dont fret...men are easily manipulated. A few subtle hints here and there (such as spending some extra time looking at the engagement ring displays at the mall, telling how much you cant wait to spend the rest of your life with him, etc.) Its ok to be presumptuous, but when it comes down to "popping the question" let him be the one to do it.
2006-12-15 11:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can, there is no rule against it. But, traditionally women have the urge before men do. They dream of this from childhood. It is a good idea to wait until he proposes, because at least then you know he is ready. And, you will have less risk of rejection. Marriage scares men!! There are sneaky ways around it, hint a lot, find out if he is ready. Talk about it, talk about your ideas for the future. Find out if he wants the same things, and then you would have a better idea if he is ready to say yes or not! Or otherwise, he will know that you want to, and will ask you when he knows for sure!
2006-12-15 10:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she feels that the man wants to ask but is afraid or unsure she will accept then I'd say yes.
But if she thinks he would feel weird if she proposed then it's better to just talk about marriage and give him the encouragement that he needs to make him pop the question.
2006-12-15 10:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by aiguyaiguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is okay but you might push the guy away! some men have it planned in their head when who with what and where in head and he might not be ready for the whole marrage thing and thats great if you want to be married by 25 but i wouldn't pop the question you can talk about marriage and see what his views are adn give him hints but i would have to say no for a couple reasons, he might be ready, he might feel inferior to u and wouldn't it be more romantic for him to come to u with a ring and ask you to be his wife for the rest of life!
2006-12-15 10:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by tluckie313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends 100% on your man. He could perceive that as being some woman power move or that you are stealing his spotlight. I would be very unhappy if a girl proposed to me personally. Just like a girl dreams about her wedding, its something many guys imagine themselves doing one day. Just start some discussion about weddings...when he is ready he will ask. You could push him away if you ask him and he's not ready...be VERY careful about doing this!
2006-12-15 10:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by Trevor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's alright i guess. If you wouldnt want to scare away the guys.
I mean, if that guy really wants to be with you, try hinting him or telling him jokingly ..so that he will propose to you instead.
If you propose to a man, he might find it awkward and got scare off by your lil act. yehh..
2006-12-15 10:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL YEAH its ok I proposed to him and we're getting married in April!
2006-12-17 03:24:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it....at least you will know where he stands...maybe he is one of those guys that never wants to get married, so you may find this out very quickly
don't be afraid to move on and look for someone else.
good luck
2006-12-15 10:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by besthusbandever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋