She keeps telling me that she just got out of a really serious relationship about two years ago and she isn't interested in another one. She keeps expressing that she wants to engage in sexual intercourse with me but I don't feel like I am ready. I think she is just trying to use me for you know what. I am more of a relationship guy myself, what should I do?
2006-12-15 02:00:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her how you feel. She's not a mind reader.
2006-12-15 02:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to follow your mind on this one. If you know you are not the type of guy who can have "casual" sex because your emotions get involved, you may have to let this woman go for awhile. If she continually expresses that she just wants to engage in sexual intercourse without any relationship or even the POTENTIAL of commitment then you may have a problem if you are a relationship oriented type of person.
If you believe you are just being used for sex, as you say, and this is not your desire you need to express that to her.
You know you are relationship oriented and this woman is not at this point in her life. Perhaps you need to start considering dating other women, but first, take a genuine approach one more time and tell the woman that you like her a great deal and would like to have a relationship with her. Honesty is the best first approach and then if the answer is "no" I just want sex then you need to let her go so she can have this sexual fling with an available man who will do that with her.
2006-12-15 10:20:30 · answer #2 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't force someone into a relationship if they are not ready and you should respect that, and if you are not ready to engage in intercourse she should respect that. It sounds to me like she is maybe stringing you along too, but then again if sex was all she is interested in then she wouldn't have been with you for as long as you have been together. I would just take things as they come, and if a relationship is meant to be, it will happen before you know it! Just give it time!
2006-12-15 10:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you want and you have values that have been bestowed upon you, If this girl is not ready for a relationship and you are not ready to engage in sexual activity, Then you should find someone else it is obvious that she does not want to date you so tell her you don't want to have sex with her and that you like her for more then that, She could be using and you would never know it, I am sure whatever her intentions are they don't measure up to your standard of things. There are certainly more girls out there for you to choose from and pick the one that you want to date not just for the romance, I think you should be honest with her about what you want and that you like but you don't think it is going to work out.
2006-12-15 10:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you do not sleep with people with whom you are not in a relationship. Tell her that you have romantic feelings for her, but don't want to rush her into something she's not ready for. I'd let her know that you still have feelings for her and you're willing to take it slow. If she still doesn't dig this, then move on...the timing isn't right, and there are plenty of fish in the sea!
2006-12-15 10:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by should be working 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since she doesnt want a relationship with you, its obvious she' isnt attracted to you in deep level. maybe physical. She just wnat to use u as her f&&k toy. If thats ok with you, do it, if its not. The cut connection with her, cause she isnt planning anything else and u could get her if u keep things moving.
Maybe once are gone she'll realize she misses you and she'll call u again and finally become something else.
2006-12-15 10:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's keep it real that girl don't want you. She's just waiting for the right one to come along or come back whichever the case may be. You are right, she just want to use you for that short s word. I suggest you keep looking for something real because that isn't going nowhere.
2006-12-15 10:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by Gail S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. If she came right out and wants to have sex instead of a relationship, how many men do you think she persued?
2006-12-15 10:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your rules. She is infatuated with you because of your old fashioned values. They are hard to come by these days. Don't let her 'have her way' and ruin it for you.
2006-12-15 10:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's using you to satisfy her physical needs. she doesn't need you in the way you want her to need you. sorry, but, i guess, you could do some disappearing act for a while and see whether she comes around?
2006-12-15 10:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋