I'm not sure what more I can do. I'm 35, recently lost my job and I have a blended family of 7. My wife works but it's just not enough. Our house was forclosed on in Nov. and we have to be out by may. I don't know what we are gonna do. I don't even care if I have to do something illegal, just give me some tips on what I can do to better my family's life, they mean the world to me. Our poor children don't even realize that we have lost everything. How do I tell them? I am most definitly not looking for a free ride or a hand-out! I just want some advice on how I can make some decent money(legally or not).
2006-12-15 01:44:40 · 17 answers · asked by slowly_sinking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow, you have my life from just over a year ago written down right there. I went and moved into subsidized housing for a bit to back on my feet. I don't know where you live so I don't know if that would be a safe choice where you are. The kids when they figure out what is going on may take it hard. Mine did. As for making money quickly it depends on what you can do. I'd grab a quick job doing construction. Hard labor but it usually pays well. Stay away from the illegal jobs because you being in jail will really not help your family out. Stay strong and maybe you should try some government programs just to get you back on your feet. You've paid taxes all these years to fund these programs you might as well get something out of it.
2006-12-15 01:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by zara01 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jobs are scarce right now as I am sure you are very much aware.. the only places I have found that seem to be consistently looking for someone are temp agencies. I live in Michigan and we have a "Michigan Works" program there is also "Kelly Services".. sometimes the temp jobs lead to permanent employment. Probably the best thing that you can do right now is downsize until you get back on your feet. You might need to apply for some assistance.. I know.. but swallow your pride its for your kids. That's why the assistance is there, to help people when they need it. Its not like you will be on it forever and by the sounds of it you have already been paying into it for years. I would also look for an apartment that you can rent that is rent based on income. Best of Luck to you. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time right now.
PS- Don't do anything illegal, your family needs you and if you are behind bars, you won't be any help to them at all.
2006-12-15 01:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you are not alone. My house was in foreclosure so I sold it before it could be finalized. Talk to a free legal aid service and ask if there is time for you to do that too. At least maybe you could recoup some money out of the deal. You should be able to collect unemployment unless you quit. Go and find out. That will give you a little assistance for a while. Also get on welfare and food assistance. Take all you can get from the system because they sure as hell do it to us. Go to your local church and request some food help so money you can get on hand is not spent all on groceries. Get a job delivering pizzas or bartending where you can get fast cash in hand (I made a hell of a lot of money bartending). Whatever you do, DO NOT do anything illegal. My ex husband went that route and is in prison for five years. It would do your family no good to lose you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Many people go through bad times and can turn it around even when they think it is impossible. Wake up every day and get out there and fight!
2006-12-15 01:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you get unemployment? I'm sure you're looking for other work. Don't do something illegal. This will only hurt you and your family in the long run. There are so many services out there that should be able to keep you from becoming homeless or reliant on social services. Based on your income you should be able to get help with housing as well. What city/state/county do you live in? Consider taking any job at all and work out your payments with each creditor. You are desperate right now but again doing something illegal may get you through a rough patch now but it will catch up with you and your family.
2006-12-15 01:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont panix just yet, i mean you've got 5 months so find something for you and your family. Can you not give the house up and move in with your/her family and save up until you can afford a new flat/home. There are jobs out there if yuo want one, go to the local job centres and agencies, even if they are giving you work on a week to week basis it is better than nothing. If the worst comes to the worst, the local council will house you somewhere, they need to by law.
You could always take up some dodgy dealings, but its the point you may get caught and sent to jail, meaning your family would be without you.
Good Luck, go and see your local citizens advice burea they are good for letting you know your rights etc
2006-12-15 01:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by carrienicholson23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im really sorry for your situation. Start by asking family members if they would be able to get you a job where they work, then go with friends and ask the same thing. Its all about getting the word out to others that your looking for a job. And honestly I wouldnt get so picky right now, your kids need you and Im sure its hard on your wife, but doing something illegal is not the best answer. Pray alot, and youll see that God listens to your prayers just have lots of faith. Best of Luck!
2006-12-15 02:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by Latina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry this is happening to you. I don't know where you live, but have you heard of section-8? They help pay for your housing so that way you can afford to rent an apartment or a house. It goes by your income. The fact that you're about to be homeless should help you qualify faster because their is usually a long waiting period. Please don't do anything that you or your family would be ashamed of. Remember that you must set a good example for your children. You should talk to them and let them know that you're gonna be moving out so they will be prepared for it. Let them know the road ahead is gonna be bumpy, but you will all get through it together as a family. Keep your head up. Good luck.
2006-12-15 01:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by Doll 101 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Man, sorry for your situation. First, don't tell the kids yet. Wait until at least March & just tell them that you're moving because you just can't afford the house anymore. Second, May is still a ways off. You could get a job by then. Branch out. Nearby cities. Surf the web for any/all job listsings. Sell yourself hard to all future employers. I don't know what else to tell you except start selling stuff you really don't need & PRAY- God will listen & help! I'll say a little prayer myself for you & your family-good luck!
2006-12-15 01:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sandra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your father should go to court and get custody or your brother. That should be the first thing on the agenda. If he doesn't want custody of your brother, then he should at least report what is going on to the Department of Children and Families and let them intervene. Your brother is in a more dangerous situation than your mother is. At least she is a grown-up and can take care of herself (kinda). If you can't talk some sense into your mother (and she is mentally stable) then it is her decision where to go and where to live. Even though you don't like what she does, it is her life, even if she makes mistakes. If I were your father, I wouldn't give her any extra money though. Make sure the two of you get help for your brother. If you are wondering if she really is going to her sister's, contact her sister and ask her.
2016-05-24 20:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew where you lived I could tell you where to go, but since I don't and I believe you have a computer I could suggest to look for a job on line ASAP. jsonline,monster.com,yahoo.com/jobs. There are some many places that you could look and if you have anything worth value sell it before they take it and use the money to move. You should qualify for benefits because of it only being your wife's income so i would say contact Department of Health and Family Services.
2006-12-15 01:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by destiny1983us 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋