We recently relocated and moved in with family. We needed a place to stay to get on our feet etc. We have always paid "rent", and paid our own way. Now we are ready to move, and they don't want us to. We are crammed in a small bedroom (there are four of us), and although we get along very well as friends/family, we are ready to move into our own residence. Now we are certain that they rely on income that we provide to them throughout the month. We told them we were going to look after the first of the year, however they are emphatic we don't move. What do we do? We don't want to leave them in a pinch because they helped us with a roof over our head (even though we paid for it) in our time of need. Any suggestions?? Solutions??
2006-12-15 01:41:56 · 19 answers · asked by Austins Mom 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you need to move, and have a home for your family, when you moved it, they understood that it was temporary , right? till you got on your feet, im sure that while the money you paid in rent came in handy, they were managing before you moved in,,,,,,,,, if you have given them notice now, that you are leaving at the first of the year, that shouldnt leave them in a pinch,,,,,, you need to create your own home, and they need to take care of theirs, if they choose to rent out the room to someone else,, thats their option,,,,,, you say 4 of you, i assume that includes your children,,,, you dont need to continue in one bedroom any longer then you have to,,,,,, so enjoy christmas with them, then move
2006-12-15 01:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't continue to cram 4 people in a bedroom. I've done it with 5 and it's so hard to do and for a year?? Goodness. If there was some way to spread the family out then maybe you could stay but under the current circumstances I'd move. It's just unfair to have you crammed in a room.
2006-12-15 01:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by zara01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jo Jo,
I would stay during the holidays...but make it very clear that you guys are moving out the first of the year. Let them know how much you appreciate what they have done for you. You love them...and they of course love you guys or they wouldn't have been there for you. Reassure them that you guys will remain in close contact and that you will help them out as much as you are able to. But definitely...you need your own space to spread out. You appreciate what they did...but now it is time once again to spread your wings and fly. Address their concerns...but go!
2006-12-15 02:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by kizkat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just going to have to tell them straight out that you guys need to move forward with your life and 4 people in one room is not very 'comfortable.' Thank them profusely and show that you truly care cause what they did for you was wonderful. Life does go on though. GOOD LUCK :)
2006-12-15 01:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
interesting situation, but you don't have to and shouldn't stay! Do what's best for you and your family! You have paid to use that space, so i do not consider it a "Favor." While it was kind, you shouldn't feel obligated to stay there just because they like the extra income. that's totally weird!
2006-12-15 01:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by should be working 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the big picture you and your family comes first, period. It seems thet don't have a care about how you feel. Just talk to them. four people in one bedroom is way too many.
2006-12-15 01:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to go.
Continue to look for housing for your family and once you have your own place, inform your friends that you guys are moving and that you truly appreciate everything they have done for your family.
2006-12-15 01:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by pradavee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain how you feel and help them find someone who can pay like you guys. Try to stay near them to stay close, because the may be afraid of losing friends.
2006-12-15 01:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by destiny1983us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you guys should move and just try bo give them a little something towards the rent just dont leave them in a bind like that since they did help you out it would be a way of saying thanks.
2006-12-15 01:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's tough. i'd say stay through christmas and then pack up. what can you do! you can't stay there if it's that uncomfortable just cause they helped you out a little. stay in touch though, and thank them repeatedly. Good luck!
2006-12-15 01:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by L-dog =) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋